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BluMagic 12-25-2007 02:30 PM

OMG!!!!!!!!! you guys, I'm gonna cry!
 
My dad left us when I was two. k. Last time I talked to him was two years ago after some lady called Mom about him. I don't want to go into detail. Anyways, he called on my bday in August. And he called today!!!! He gave me his email! I miss him so much but I know Mom doesn't like that I love him so much. I can't help it. He was my world. What do I do?

Frog 12-25-2007 07:19 PM

He's your father and you love him. So you do what ever you want. I think your mother will come to terms with her feelings and be happy for you.

latte62lover 12-26-2007 12:49 AM

Ok my parents are divorced and i live with my dad
He has two daughters from a previous marriage and left them with the mother because he felt that two girls need to grow up with a mother especially one that was french because these two girls were born and raised in France...

I am sure that my half sister's mother did not want them communicating with my dad for obvious reasons but they still did. They came to visit a lot but did so making sure both parents were happy.

I know its hard to hear bad things about each parent from the other one. I go through the same thing a lot but you just have to learn to ignore most of it and stay neutral. If you want to make sure you see your dad or at least talk to him, make sure how you do so is ok with your mother. For example if you always talk with your dad and NEVER with your mom something bad will happen...Keep it evenly balanced. Sit down and talk with your mom about the situations. Remind her that he is your father no matter what the past may bring up and you love him very much.

Remember that both parents love you A LOT!!!!

If you ever need someone to talk to i am always available :)

BluMagic 12-26-2007 12:47 PM

Thanks guys!!! I think it's better now....we'll just have to wait and see.

PaintsAqha 12-26-2007 01:02 PM

My advise to you is NOT to expect anything! Good or Bad.....
Go into it like you would just meeting someone new. Put aside the fact that he is your dad.
Get to know him as a person. Because as you said you were 2 when he left.
Enjoy your the getting to know him time and take it slow.

BluMagic 12-26-2007 01:06 PM

^^^ Well he visited everyone month. Until some lady called Mom and his three ex wives all got together. But ya he would come around a lot. His second wife had a son. And her son....he's still my step brother no matter what anyone says. We stopped visiting 2yrs ago when he moved to Florida by his dad. He moved back this year though. That's when he called me on my bday. Ao i know A LOT about him. Even though there is still a lot to learn.

PaintsAqha 12-26-2007 01:09 PM

You are right he is your brother and do keep in touch with him that is a good thing.

BluMagic 12-26-2007 01:10 PM

Lol...we aren't related by blood or anything but still. I feel like it's right. And not only that...he was so much fun to play with! lol.

Delregans Way 12-26-2007 04:53 PM

Oh lovey thats good news... and thank you for sharing that with us. Like someone stated above, dont jump to conclusions. Even though he is your father and you should trust him... just get to know him first. You dont want to get hurt. :(

jazzyrider 12-27-2007 07:18 AM

Re: OMG!!!!!!!!! you guys, I'm gonna cry!
 
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Originally Posted by BluMagic
My dad left us when I was two. k. Last time I talked to him was two years ago after some lady called Mom about him. I don't want to go into detail. Anyways, he called on my bday in August. And he called today!!!! He gave me his email! I miss him so much but I know Mom doesn't like that I love him so much. I can't help it. He was my world. What do I do?

blu i lost my step dad early this year to cancer. i didnt get to tell him all the things i wanted to. the main one was that i love him. that is going to be with me for the rest of my life because all i keep thinking about is whether or not he knew that. huge regret!!! you will end up with enough regrets in your life...dont let the same thing happen to you. you love your dad and miss him...grab hold of the fact that your dad is still alive and keep a relationship with him

the most important thing in life is to let the people we care about know just how much we care about them before we cant anymore. my biological dad is still alive and while i dont have the same relationship with him as i had with my step dad, i make sure i tell him i love him and make him a part of my life.

you have to do what you have to do and you have to make the decisions in life that you feel are right. sometimes other people dont always understand but that shouldnt stop us from doing what we know deep down we need to do.

i dont know if ive helped at all but thats my pearl of wisdom for ya ;)


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