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Deerly 07-12-2010 05:12 AM

My horse is out of my league..
So I had a friend take some photos of me riding Jax today and some video which I'm thrilled about.

What I'm not so thrilled about is my horrible embarrassing equitation! Looking at some of the photos/video I just want to curl up and die but my HORSE is the most photogetic gorgeous thing on the planet. I actually feel embarrassed, like people would look at us and think he could do so much better :? Ok so this is kind of a silly thread but on some level I really do worry about that!

We are both coming off really long riding hiatuses. He's been in rehab to get over a lameness and before I adopted him I hadn't ridden in six years. He's still pretty green and not the easiest horse to ride but I don't want to make excuses for my awful eq!

I used to be a pretty good rider and did dressage and showed and oh oh oh my teenage self would have ripped me a new one seeing those videos today. I'm taking lessons but at the moment they are mostly focusing on the horse, teaching him to move off the leg and work on and off the rail and how to stay in a controlled trot etc. I think I'm going to ask for her to help me with my position more at the same time now that I've seen the result with my own two eyes!

I guess I'm mostly upset because I felt so confident riding today until I saw the film! It's just sloppy and bad posture, leg moving WAY too much. Nothing dangerous or horrifying but really really unflattering meanwhile my horse looks like something out of a calendar. Have you ever felt that way? That you were going to embarrass your horse? :oops:

Alwaysbehind 07-12-2010 06:01 AM

I would guess we have all felt that way more than once in our lives.

Instead of beating yourself up over it, use the video as a tool to start fixing the things you need to fix. I am sure in a short time, when you get another video tape, you will be very proud of your improvement.

RioPony 07-12-2010 06:18 AM

lol. yes.
Just keep at it though! You'll get back up the speed soon enough.

- Brie.

TheCountryLife 07-12-2010 06:26 AM

Jax is an absolute stunning horse, so beautiful. I can only imagine how proud you must be to own a horse that looks so gorgeous.

You have said that you both are improving Jax from his lameness and yourself from not riding for 6 years - so take this experience to show what you both need to improve on and work from there. It is good that you have the confidence and are enjoying riding Jax so that may help you when improving on your eq and the experience will be more rewarding when you see the final results. It would definitely be beneficial for you to focus some of your lessons from a professional to spot where you are going wrong and the best ways to fix it.You should regularly video your riding to visualize how well or unwell you are doing along with the feedback from your trainer and this will be such a benefit. Everyone can always improve their riding skills and will always be critical of the way they handled their horse or the way the horse rode even the famous and professional riders will usually have some criticism of their performance.

Take this experience as a god send because if your friend did not take the pictures and video then you would have continued to ride the way you are and this could have caused bad habits in both you and Jax and would be harder to fix at a later stage.

Good luck though and I hope with a little extra work you will be happy with the way you look riding Jax. Maybe wearing a protector vest could help with your posture and straightening your back to stop you from slouching???

Cobalt 07-12-2010 09:53 AM

I took a long time off riding and when I started to ride again, I was embarrassed to find that my equitation had slipped quite a bit. I spent a little while being embarrassed, but then I just decided it was time to fix it. I focused on one thing at a time, because otherwise it can be overwhelming! Like you, I had a horse that needed a lot of work and so between working on him and me, it was a lot to think about! You'll find, though, that as your equitation improves, he will improve too! How we ride is totally related to how horses move and respond to us as riders. So pick one thing that you think is most important and concentrate on that right now. As soon as you feel you are doing that well, move on to the next thing. If I were you, I'd concentrate on overall posture first.

Good luck!

inaclick 07-12-2010 10:21 AM

I'm always embarrassed and i guess I'll always be the Permanent Beginner because of my inconsistencies - unless I suddenly win the lottery -

It's even more cringing when you observe same horse you rode, ridden by someone else who is miles better than you. Then I notice how much the horse was gimping himself and his own posture and paces, to adapt to my wobbly insecure presence on his back.

Your horse is stunning, simply breath taking. It's very easy to outshine even a good rider. Just be thankful for owning such a beautiful creature and think positive: you have all the time in the world to catch up with him!
You'll be fine, I promise :) be positive, think of all the good things and in time you BOTH will look like taken from a calendar :-)

If I believe I can improve then you surely will too :)

Best of luck and many hugs

Cinnys Whinny 07-12-2010 10:25 AM

I have done the same thing, and I think we may be at the same place. Two people who haven't ridden in years, both with relatively green horses. We both used to show as teens and were excellent riders and now when we look at videos of ourselves, we cringe.....

Just give yourself time, you will get back to where you were and Jax is such a great horse, I'm sure he will be just as patient with you as you are of him. It will all come together, you'll see!

TheLastUnicorn 07-12-2010 11:12 AM

Hey, I'll join the club.

Just had two babies... have no core, very little fitness level in general... can't stay straight.

My poor little horse that is 6yrs old and has less than a year undersaddle doesn't know what to do with me. She wiggles this way, swerves that way... and can't relax (or maybe she feels tense in the first place which has me reacting to it... either way).

There have been days I was SO happy with how we were doing... then I get a look at photos or video of us and I want to die in humilation. *sigh* All I can do is tell her I'm sorry I'm unfit, and that I will work my hardest to fix things for her - THEN we'll be GREAT!

From about 3 months ago, could we look much more braced and tense?

From last week (too bad it's fuzzy).. she was looking at a horse eating bridge on the side of the ring... but at least it shows I'm not trying to hold her up by the mouth nearly so bad (also shows how horrendously crooked I am... poor little horse)

I figure the important thing is that I do improve, even if it's just a little bit - the only time I'm going to start bawling is when I know the errors are there and no longer work on them. (As a side note, I can't often get coaching in my area... so I do get someone to take video of me riding, and then I pick it apart, and work on the things that are weak... it's been working because this last lesson with the coach she was saying we'd come a really really long way together in just a short period of time)

Don't lose heart - instead, picture how great you two will look once you've worked out the kinks.

Speed Racer 07-12-2010 11:29 AM

You know what? Your horse has no expectations or goals, nor does he care if he's 'out of your league'.

It's people who put importance on those things, not horses.

As long as you're not hurting your horse, all it's going to take is time and effort on your part to get back into shape.

There is such a thing as muscle memory, and if you've been taught correctly, your body will eventually get back into the proper riding form.

Good luck, and don't beat yourself up over something you have the power to correct.

reachthestars 07-12-2010 02:21 PM

Lessons, lessons, lessons, lessons! You've realized your flaws, which is a HUGE step, and the fastest way to accomplish your goals is with an instructor you trust helping you bring out the best in both of you. Riding is a life long exercise in learning and growing, so don't be afraid to take the plunge and get help. Everyone needs good coach, from the top levels right on down :).

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