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Never thought I'd be saying this...
...but I want out of horses.
I don't enjoy it anymore it seems. It's so much work to be ever so lacking in rewards. I went to my first APHA show and rode the CRAP out of Cowboy the first day to try and get him from being a jerk. The day of our classes, he warmed up perfectly and as soon as we were under the judge's eyes - he just freaking decided to be a mule. So, instead of expending $28 on two more classes each - I scratched. I thought this horse and I had a bond, but I guess that's just roses, glitter and fairy tales. I haven't quite decided what I'm going to do with him yet. I had someone who knew his sire very well tell me I needed to be on him an hour before the class and just working him and working him, before I informed them "I was on him an hour and a half before that class ever showed signs of starting."
The miniatures were my mom's deal and I'm the only one who ever works them, clips them, gets them ready for show. It's crap! We HAD a futurity tomorrow, but since she never bought a pair of actual body clippers I'm struggling to tear through pony coats with an A5. I walked in twenty minutes ago and told her to forget about it - I wasn't going. I'm sick of being the only one getting HER HORSES ready while she's in here playing farmville/frontierville/doucheland whatever. I love Viking to death, he's an awesome mini and the only one I want to keep. The rest can go or she can take care of them.
I'm absolutely tired of this. All of it.
If horses were never your dream and you were just doing it for someone else, then I say get out of them. You're not doing yourself or the animals any favors by having such a sucky attitude.
It's okay to not be a horse person. What's not okay is copping an attitude at your horse because he isn't some magical, fairy-like being who does your every wish with perfect grace and harmony. Horses aren't like that.
Like any sentient being with a mind of its own, they have their own personalities, likes, dislikes, and temper tantrums, and aren't always going to do what you want.
I got out of showing years ago because my gelding hated it. I took up trail riding, which is just as expensive, but less stressful.
If you're really serious about getting out of horses, then do it. Horses need devotion and dedication. If you can't or don't have that, then do everyone a favor and stop wasting your time.
I think you are just going through a rough time.
1.) I don't expect my horse to be 'perfect'. But to be perfect and for him to show his ass one minute later isn't going to fly - so yes, he is going to get disciplined for that. It'd be all fine and dandy if it was the first time he did it, and I'd think "Hey something might be wrong" but like my trainer said - He's JUST like his daddy. You have to work him into the ground to get him to work for you.
2.) They were my dream and I enjoy the minis well enough - but as far as showing, I'd rather have a horse that sheds itself. Not something I have to body clip on a monthly basis.
3.) I really do not see how trail riding is just as expensive as showing. Do you have documentation to back this up?
Could you imagine yourself without horses?
On one hand yes - because I feel so completely trapped. I can't go anywhere without making sure I have some army enlisted to take care of them while I'm gone.
On the other hand no - because they have consumed every inch of my life for the past six years. I had my horse at the trainer for a month and it felt so completely empty without him here, to look out at the pasture and not see his white lard butt grazing, or pestering the filly.
So maybe I just need to board my two and tell my mother to have fun with the rest and let her do whatever with them. I got a job where I'm working nearly full time and sometimes I am working full time... I'll come home at 9 at night and no one's even been brought in. I'm just too tired to deal with all of it.
I always said I don't show because it is to much like work and I ride to have fun. So if you really like the horses try something different maybe you and your horse will find you are real partners on the trail.
It sounds to me like you are burnt out. Give yourself time off. Why does your mother make you do the minis? You need to express yourself to her and be done with it. But guaranteed, if you give up everything you could end up with nothing! Take a year off and go back to enjoying yourself and your horse. Who knows, maybe this was your horses way of saying he is done too. For now?.
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After reading what you have said, I agree, it is probably time for you to get out of horses.
Why do you have to show? I don't show (at least at the moment while my horses are training) and definitely not missing it. If you are not in horse business, horse must be for pleasure, not something you force yourself to do. BUT with that being said there are times you just feel burned out because of some other stuff in your life. Try to switch to something else - trail rides, just lessons, may be don't ride for week or two and just mess with them, etc.
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