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Frankiee 03-21-2011 05:05 PM

anybody else has this problem ?
 
hey guys !

So just wondering if anyone else have parents who dont get the horse thing ?! I dont own a horse I lease one for free because I work it off and my lessons are not expensive. But there always complaining !!!! They say I spen my money on only horse stuff and not for me I purchased safety stirrups and a new IRH helmet in the last 2 mounth and yes hopefuly I want to buy a eventing vest next mounth because I need one before may. but its my own money and that stuff is good for life so I dont get it! Plus they say I'm never home!! But even then they dont have to drive me to my barn cause my coach even comes to get me! So why do they have to find more thing's to complain about anyone else have this problem what did you do ??

thanks

Speed Racer 03-21-2011 05:10 PM

Did it ever occur to you that maybe they'd like you to spend some of your time with them? They are your parents, after all.

I don't have that problem, as I've been an adult a long time. But no, my family has never understood the whole 'horse thing', so don't expect yours to ever change.

Frankiee 03-21-2011 05:14 PM

I understand that completly but we spend every weekend at camp together were a very close family.

RockandRide 03-21-2011 05:15 PM

My family has the same problem. They dont get what I see in horses and dont really care about any accomplishments I make in riding. I have to pay for all my horse stuff myself, and will only pay for one lesson a week and will only drive me there for that much. If I want to help out, I need to carpool! Luckily, my dad is trying to get into the whole thing and be supportive and he is really helping out. I am starting to help out more at the barn and he is willing to get me a subscription to my horse magazine. He will let me become a groom too!

Maybe like ^^^^ said, they want to spen more time with you. Tell them that horses are your thing and you would really like it if they rode with you one day. Take them on a trail ride or soemthing. Show them what fun horses can be.

You could try and be upfront by openly asking them why they dont like horses. they will usually have a good reason, and try and make a comprimise with it.

It usually wont change. My mom is like that and I dont think it will change. But they are really open to what I want to do :)

Frankiee 03-21-2011 05:24 PM

I did convinced them to go trail riding with me once and they enjoyed themsleves :) they dont mind that I ride.. they just say that they want my riding to stay at 1 a week but if I want to improve I have to ride a little more then that. Sometimes there finee then other they blow up on me. Its hard!

Lovehorsesandrunning 03-21-2011 05:31 PM

OH MY GOODNESS i know.. exactly what you are saying. I don't get it at all! and my mom even had a few horses when she was younger, i guess it just wasnt a click or good match or something. More or less i knowwhat your saying, i beggged my parents for lessons since i knew what a horse was and i finnaly got them in third grade., but unfortunatly the barn forclosed and my arents refused to pay for anotherr stable come sixth grade. Then finnaly towards the end of sixth grade i luckily found a friend with horses! Then ive been riding her Paso Fino Artie(: my love... since... a week ago. Someone offered a lease on Artie but i got first dibs i guess you could say. Then my parents made a terrible decision, and i can't lease him. so i cant ride. they obviously dont get how much Artie, or riding/ horses in general means to me

ErikaLynn 03-21-2011 05:34 PM

Your parents sounds like my mom....she gets the horse stuff, but I think my mom just likes to complain about something.

Frankiee 03-21-2011 09:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Lovehorsesandrunning (Post 970274)
OH MY GOODNESS i know.. exactly what you are saying. I don't get it at all! and my mom even had a few horses when she was younger, i guess it just wasnt a click or good match or something. More or less i knowwhat your saying, i beggged my parents for lessons since i knew what a horse was and i finnaly got them in third grade., but unfortunatly the barn forclosed and my arents refused to pay for anotherr stable come sixth grade. Then finnaly towards the end of sixth grade i luckily found a friend with horses! Then ive been riding her Paso Fino Artie(: my love... since... a week ago. Someone offered a lease on Artie but i got first dibs i guess you could say. Then my parents made a terrible decision, and i can't lease him. so i cant ride. they obviously dont get how much Artie, or riding/ horses in general means to me

that really sucks!!! I hope it works out for you! no human being should be forced to stop riding !

and omg yes !! and some days there all good with it then the other they think its a waste of time and money ! what's up with that !?

RockandRide 03-22-2011 05:30 PM

My parents are like that as well. Some days they are all happy to drive me to the barn, and get me horse stuff. Other days they just get mad.

Palomino Brigade 03-22-2011 05:42 PM

Ugh. My dad used to work at his dad's racing stable in California, and he bought Ray for me and all, but doesn't care about how high I got him to jump or what cool tricks I taught him. My mom never has been a horse person... especially since that time when she was little and her brother's horse pulled their porch across their yard... O.o But I feel like the only people who care to help me, etc. are my 2 neighbors. One used to be a riding instructor, but retired, and one used to show in some major eventing classes with her polish arabs, but they all retired. That's where I got my old tack set and the dream of jumping. And that's where my 'arena' is. (Fenced in and flat pasture. That's it.)
:) Good luck getting them to see your side.


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