Riding through the teens
Well, I just turned 13 a few weeks ago, and suddenly, I don't find riding so interesting! :shock: I love my horse SO much, and could never leave him, but I just don't find riding so intersting! I have fun during lessons though, so do you think its just that I don't know what to work on?
Sorry if this has already been posted. :?
My daughter has become more horse oriented as she hit her teens. She will be 15 this summer and right now everything she does tends to focus around her horses. Her best friends all have horses, they all practice and ride together and she is riding everyday now that the weather is nicer here.
It could just be personal preference rather than being due to turning a teenager. For me, if anything my love of riding got stronger, the further through the teens I went. Do you have lessons with other people, and do you ride on your own outside of lessons? It could just be that you're struggling with riding on your own, I'm fine with it now but I would have hated it at a younger age. I would just try and do something fun with your horse, try some obstacle courses with plastic sheets, buckets etc or just find somewhere new to ride just to add interest :)
I think I went through something a bit similar when I hit that age. I don't know your situation, but I didn't really have any horsey friends or people that I rode with, and I started to focus more on other things for a while, but like you I did still have fun in lessons.
Personally I pushed through it and kept riding, because like you I loved my horses and I knew that they needed to be kept in work and excercised regularly. I found that that after a little while my enthusiasm was back and stronger than ever. Riding and spending time with my horses is now as important to me as anyting.
As long as you do still enjoy lessons I would keep riding and see if it is just a phase you are going through. That said, please do bear in mind that if you really have just lost interest in riding all together, the fact that you love your horse is not enough. You have to put his needs first and ensure that he is excercised and stimulated regularly. if you are not interested in riding him, he should be with someone that is.
Perhaps you could look into ways to keep your interest going. You could consider joining a pony club or riding group or finding someone new to ride with? Or perhaps you could look into trying a new discipline, like jumping for example. I don't know what kind of riding you do but if you generally do the same thing such as flatwork or hacking, trying something new might just grab your attention again.
I hope you get your interest back, because you are young enough to still be learning and progressing, and this is a very rewarding process if you do hang in there, however if it is just not going to happen, dont force it.
You just have to think back to what got you interested in horses and riding in the first place. Always remember, during the teen years, We go through ALOT between relationships and growing up. That horse will be there for you when people will walk out of your life.
I have seen far to many of my friends grow out of the "horse stage". They live pretty miserable lives if you ask me. Going through relationships like they are going out of style and getting involved in the wrong crowds. I find that horses keep me OUT of trouble. It gives me goals to reach and my horses depend on me to care for them.
I did that when I took lessons in sixth grade and quit in seventh. I quit lessons cause I got bored with it. One of the biggest mistakes I've made in my life. I got back into riding recently, and I love it more than ever, and I'm 18.
I started horse riding when I was 9. I went for maybe 3 years then stopped for a year. I then started again when I was 14 in a different place. I went for a year then stopped again. Then I ended up in the place I am now! I have been here about 3 years. Ever since I got Lola I am there nearly everyday! And it is more fun because I have friends now who like horses. My other friends are not really interested even though one of them tried it out a few times. So I having fun. And I am 19. I am very glad I started again or I would have nothing to do XD
I go to the barn 5 days a week, with one lesson. Thank you for your input, I honestly didn't think I'd get this much response in a little under a day!
I have a few friends who ride, though one 'friend' gets really er... competetive about riding, that may be what the problem is, because I'm not really one to fight back, I'd rather back down and forget about it, but riding is different. I can't give up on that.
My friend does that too. She still rides, but she gets involved with this girl who has been to jail for drug use. She doesn't have the right passion for riding I think. She just doesn't seem thrilled about her horse...
haha i'm 14 right now and have started rising A LOT more now that my dad and stepmom have three horses! It's soooo much fun! I don't think i've ever been more pumped to ride! I'm trying to figure out what discipline to do (jumping, dressage, barrel racing, competitive trail riding, etc) and am looking forward to trying something new! I don't know what discipline you're doing now but maybe you could start looking into learning something new or possibly showing (if you don't already). I know showing is an added stress especially when you're a teen but i'm gonna start next year probably (when i'm 15) and hopefully it'll go well! I think it'll be a lot of fun!
So, maybe try learning something new, doing some really fun things with your horse (i.e. camping, trail riding, showing, etc), or thinking of some possible goals you can make for yourself to reach! If that still doesn't help you get back into riding then maybe you should leave it behind for a year or so and then come back to it later(just make sure your horse has exercise you could lease him out). I hope my answer helps!!
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