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Tobysmom 06-28-2011 07:05 PM

Help, Need advice. 1st time horse rider
 
Hi. I'm a first time horse owner/rider. Bought my 1st horse in April. Had my first fall/accident June 15. 3 days in the hospital with subdural bleed (yes I had a helmet on). Now I'm getting all the advice to give up on my dream for my safety & that I'm too old to start riding a horse (I'm 39). I realized I should have done this 20 years ago but did not have the financial security I have now and the time. Is this a losing battle?:cry:

heartprints62 06-28-2011 07:11 PM

No one is too old, but you need to get the help of a professional. Start with a LOT of riding lessons. Core strengthening exercises and stretching will help you be a stronger rider. Get a trainer that will teach you ground work exercises as well as saddle work.
Start there, get some help for yourself before you give up on the dream of riding. Without knowing the circumstances of the fall, you might need a horse more suited to your skill level or you might be able to handle the horse better after riding lessons. If the horse threw you or bucked you off, you might have "over-horsed" yourself for a begining rider. In that case, get a trainer for you horse as well as for yourself. See if you can have the horses issues (if any) worked on while you are working on your own riding ability.

Again without knowing the circumstances of your fall or your ability, this is the best advice I can give.

goldilockz 06-28-2011 07:13 PM

You're not too old and it isn't a losing battle! However, I definitely recommend getting a professional trainer to give you lessons on everything from horsemanship, to groundwork, to riding.

Tobysmom 06-28-2011 10:06 PM

Thank you for the kind words. I do have a trainer but its not a good match. She seems to yell a lot. I'm on the road to recovery and I'm checking in to a new trainer to ride my horse for me until I'm able. I just needed someone with experience to tell me its okay to start this late in the joys of horsemanship!

Shasta1981 06-28-2011 10:13 PM

Great advice from heartprints and goldilockz! Good for you, get a trainer who works for you. I'm sorry that you got hurt. As for your concern about your age, I was recently daydreaming and looking at horses online that I will never own, and one of the horses was being shown by her 72 year old rider. So yeah, i wouldn't worry about it. =)

tinyliny 06-28-2011 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by heartprints62 (Post 1080003)
No one is too old, but you need to get the help of a professional. Start with a LOT of riding lessons. Core strengthening exercises and stretching will help you be a stronger rider. Get a trainer that will teach you ground work exercises as well as saddle work.
Start there, get some help for yourself before you give up on the dream of riding. Without knowing the circumstances of the fall, you might need a horse more suited to your skill level or you might be able to handle the horse better after riding lessons. If the horse threw you or bucked you off, you might have "over-horsed" yourself for a begining rider. In that case, get a trainer for you horse as well as for yourself. See if you can have the horses issues (if any) worked on while you are working on your own riding ability.

Again without knowing the circumstances of your fall or your ability, this is the best advice I can give.

This is just exactly what I was going to say! Thanks, hearts!
I am 53. Started at 41. YOu, too old? Get outta here!!!!
Oh, and in the last 12 years Ive been riding I have come off 15 times!!!! No broken bones or concussions , yet. Most falls are not nearly as bad as happened to you. Most are not big deal, at all, just dust off the back and get back on. I am cheering for you , but getting help will make it more successful, and more fun. Riding is much more satisfying when shared with others.

heartprints62 06-28-2011 10:26 PM

If it makes you feel any better, I ride a trail ride every year in April and Oct. Big ride, always 150-200 people. I know a lot of the regulars, horses and people. This April there was a new lady there, 62 years old, on a 3 year old, very green TB. She was a confident rider, but that was a LOT of horse. Anyways, he bucked her off and as I and many other rushed to her side, she sat up and dusted off. The nurse asked her if she was hurting or numb anywhere. Her response was, "Honey, I'm 62 years old. Everything hurt when I woke up this morning!" She gathered herself back up and got right back on him and set his butt straight. He was an angel the rest of the weekend.
No one is too old to have a great relationship with a horse or ride with confidence.

heartprints62 06-28-2011 10:31 PM

Might I also add that I am impressed with the confidence you show by being injured and continuing to pursue your dream as well as the wisdom displayed by asking for help. In my opinion, these are two of the MOST important qualities of a successful horse person. Throw in a little common sence and you are already ahead of most people! ;D

goldilockz 06-28-2011 10:36 PM

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Originally Posted by heartprints62 (Post 1080266)
Might I also add that I am impressed with the confidence you show by being injured and continuing to pursue your dream as well as the wisdom displayed by asking for help. In my opinion, these are two of the MOST important qualities of a successful horse person. Throw in a little common sence and you are already ahead of most people! ;D

I agree!

outnabout 06-28-2011 11:33 PM

Tobysmom, age has nothing to do with it, provided you are physically and mentally healthy.
Anyone who wants to ride and care for a horse needs instruction and practice with a professional with everything from horse diet to ground work to riding skills. I was older than you when I began and was told it takes about a year to become a confident rider. That was true. Like you, I had the time and resources to do it right. I leased a couple of horses before buying one to get more riding time and to be sure that I was comfortable with the financial and time demands of ownership.
It is too bad that your first fall was such a nasty one. If it was something that could have been prevented, you have learned a lesson and are all the wiser for it. I encourage you to find the support you need to continue, and then get back on that horse and ride! And know that everybody falls off sometimes:lol:


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