I'm just wondering if anyone has any tips for not overthinking my stops. My mare can do an amazing sliding stop that can compete with any horse in my area. But not when I'm riding her. I have a tendancy to tense up and overthink my stops and then I bounce out of the saddle when I ask for the stop, which in turn makes my mare pop out of her stop. The only time I can sit a nice stop is when I don't know I'm going to do a stop. As in, I will be loping her in a rectangle off the wall of the arena and she sometimes will anticipate the stop and start to speed up on her own. As soon as she speeds up a "pull her into the ground" (I don't actually pull I just sit deep in the saddle, look at the roof (cause I don't lean far enough back) and I throw my feet forward (cause that is the cue for stop). It is sooo amazing how well she slides. But when I'm riding her around and I ask for a stop I will overthink the stop and pop out of the saddle. I sit deep in the saddle and look at the roof but my legs just tense up completly which doesn't work for obvious reasons. The weird part is that my last horse that I owned I had no problems with our stops so I don't know why I'm tensing up.
I really need to fix my problem soon as my first reining event is at the end of May. I am hoping to get my friend to take a video either today or tomorrow so that I can try to dissect what I'm doing wrong.