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    07-28-2012, 10:16 PM
Unhappy frustrated and confused - advice please!!

Background: I was a typical horse crazy kid who was lucky to have parents that supported my addiction. I rode and showed jumpers on the national circuit and loved every minute. When I got married, for reasons I won't go into, riding and horses came to a halt. The ache sowly went away and I found new interests and resigned myself to never having a horse again.

Fast forward 40 years - My daughter unexpectedly purchased a small horse farm As soon as I walked into the barn, I felt like I was home. I HAD to ahve a horse. After several months of talking (and sometimes throwing temper tantrums) I finally got my horse; a beautiful 2 year old palomino quarter horse. She is beautifully ground trained and is willing, kind, and calm. I couldn't wait to turn her into my perfect horse (trail riding only now, LOL)

I had one month of heaven, then I startd to lose sensations in my hands, then feet. I won't bore you with the details, but after a million tests (there goes my arena) I was diagnose with chronc Guiillan Barre. I am now using a walker and don't have the strength or stability to ride a horse.

My husband says we can still keep her, but he will ride her only about 1 -2 days a week, and although he has good hands and a good seat, he doesn't have formal triaing. He won't hurt her, but she won't be taught anything about flexing, collection, etc. She is out in pasture all day with other horses, and in a barn at night. My daughter grooms her and fusses with her, but I kep thinking it's noty fair to Nibbles.

My prognosis is unknown. I could get better over a few months or a few year and be able to ride, buty will probably always have relapses. I know I shouold probably let someone have her who can let jer liuveup to her potential, but I just CAN'T let her go. Am I wrong? She and the possiblity of riding her again is about the only thing keeping me trying to get up in the morning and get better, but I don't want to be unfair to her, either/ Thanks for any input.
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    07-28-2012, 10:20 PM
Pictures of Nibbles ( they didn't come through on above post

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    07-28-2012, 10:24 PM
Sorry about all the typos in the above post - it took me almost 3 hours to type it -I can't move my fingers and it's like typing in mittens!!
    07-28-2012, 10:27 PM
I am so sorry to hear this, and I will be praying for you. Don't give up, and don't feel bad- a horse would rather have someone who loves them truly than learn how to collect. God bless you.
Also, is it possible to have someone else ride her, like your daughter? I'm sure there's someone out there who would love to ride her until you can again. Maybe a lease?
    07-28-2012, 10:28 PM
Oh my goodness :( Have they figured out a way to treat your case?

I found this site for you
    07-28-2012, 10:30 PM
Just to add, she's probably very happy to ride with you and to sit around and be a horse. She doesn't care about her potential:) Horses aren't just sport, they're companions too.
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    07-28-2012, 11:08 PM
Why not see if you can find someone who specializes in training horses for differently-abled riders? There are riders out there with no ARMS, so surely there's a way for you and your horse to be taught.

Does anyone remember the name of that armless European girl who grooms and tacks up using her legs and feet? She had an amazing youtube video of herself.
    07-28-2012, 11:21 PM
I had a friend who came back from Guiillan Barre, hers was acute though.

Your beautiful girl is only young and nothing will be wasted if she just hangs out for a while now,so just keep her and do what you can with her, even if it just admiring her, and visualizing yourself riding her again.

I would maybe let hubby ride her sometimes, if he isn't going to hurt anything, then don't worry about her lack of development, plenty of time for that later.

In a little while you may want to send her out to a trainer, because either you will be recovering, and thinking of riding again, and you will want her to be going nicely when you ride.

Or, it maybe that you decide that you wont be riding again, but still it will be worth a trainer putting some hours on her to help her sale value and her chances of getting a good home.

For now though, keep her, she is fulfilling her potential to you if she gives you the inspiration to fight and keep fighting.
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    07-28-2012, 11:28 PM
I'm sorry to hear about your illness. Those sorts of things are pretty scary.

As for the horses would consider this a description of heaven: "She is out in pasture all day with other horses, and in a barn at night. My daughter grooms her and fusses with her..."

My 3 horses live in a dirt corral. They seem to enjoy getting out, but if they were in a pasture? Good Lord! I'd have to rope them to catch them. My little 'if it is green, it is food' mustang? I'd have to toss HIM over my shoulder and carry him out!
    07-28-2012, 11:31 PM
My daughter can ride the horse a little, but she just puchased her own horse who needs lots of work, plus my daughter is a beginner. I really don't want to lease her asI want to have control and I would die if she got hurt or ruined by someone else who I allowed to ride her. My problem riding rightnow isn't being able to guide her - I know I can do that. My problem is with balance. I could stay on if she walked, but I would have no hope of staying on a spook or a buck (and what 2 year old doesn't do that occasionally?) ALso, getting on/off would be almost impossible. My legs are almost useless from the knee down, and my arms don't have the strength to help me on/off. Sigh. I guess I'll wait for a while and hope my strength gets better. The Dr thought I was nuts when he told me the prognosis and all I asked was "Can I stlll ride?"
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