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post #11 of 29 Old 07-28-2012, 11:21 PM
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I believe there are very few horses in this world that NEED a 'job'.

I wouldn't worry about wasting her potential. If hubby can ride her let him go ahead. Enjoy your horse however you can.

Now I know nothing about your condition except from what you've said

Meantime could you look at sourcing a quiet horse to plod on. Something short and stocky preferably, even if it's just to keep your muscles used to it. Like a thereputic riding school sort of thing.

Or could you look at groundwork. My boss used to teach a girl (about 19) how to work her Arab from her scooter so there are options.
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post #12 of 29 Old 07-29-2012, 12:04 AM
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Have you thought about having her trained to pull a buggy? Then you AND hubby can go out with her together and you can drive her, still use her. Plus, your hubby will be there in case something happens.
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post #13 of 29 Old 07-29-2012, 06:05 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks all of you for yor suggestions. I will somehow manage to work her at SOMETHING! One of my main concerns is there is no flat area to ride around my daughters - it is ALL ttrail riding. SHe is VERY good, and I have no issues with thatT, but I am afraid if I DO fall off, how in the world would I get back into the saddle I wouldn't ride alone,but with my lower legs and my arms pretty useless it would be almost ipossible, even with someone helping me. I was thinking of sking this question on the general riding forum and see if anyuone had any ideas.
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post #14 of 29 Old 07-29-2012, 07:15 PM
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First off, I am so very sorry to hear that your health took a bad turn just as you were able to achieve your dream - how disheartening. You will be in my thoughts... I hope it's a short episode and that you're on the road to recovery and back in the saddle again soon.

Secondly... if you fought this hard to get her, don't give her up. She won't care if she's stuck out in a field for a few years, even - caveat of course being that she has to have regular farrier work, deworming and vaccines - but she won't care if she's not ridden on a regular basis or at all. She's very young - to be honest, I'd really just let her learn to be a horse for a year or two. (I personally prefer to not even ride a horse till 3, or if they're slow developers I have no issue waiting till the age of 4.) If it comes down to it, let her grow up a bit and then bring her back under saddle with the help of a trainer in a year or two when (when, not if ;) power of positive thinking!) you're feeling better.
If you want her to be kept in work under saddle from here on in, though, shorter rides a couple times a week is best - she's very young and doesn't need much work right now; she's still growing and maturing, she doesn't need much work, if any at all.

Edited to add:
Have you considered getting her broken to cart? Could you handle her from a cart at all, or at least be able to be in the cart with someone else driving? It's not a short-term solution, but perhaps a more long-term goal?

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post #15 of 29 Old 07-29-2012, 08:26 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks so much for all of the advice, I think I have decided to keep her, becasue as you pointed out, she's still young. I also want you to k now I don't work her hqrd. i take her out for a short trail ride 1-2 X a week (always at a walk.) She LOVES her trail rides and actually wants to turn around and go back out most times we get to the barn. A couple of times a week i would just work on ground work, like ground tying or voice commands. I would sometimes ride her in front 0f the barn and work on stopping, backing, turning, etc. She LOVED those sessions, and would come running when I got there. She is always so willing to learn and to work. That is what I meant by wasting her. I don't want her to lose that attitude by keeing her in the pasture. Hopefully she'll stay as sweet and wiling as she is now. Wish me luck! ALso, cart training is not out of the question. My daughtger's neighbor has many acarts and buggys and drives her horses. Maybe she will be wiling to teach me. Thanks again for the advice!
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post #16 of 29 Old 07-30-2012, 01:22 PM
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She is a beautiful little mare & you have some good suggestions here. I like the cart idea-hubby could be with you & the horse has a job. She sounds like a very willing girl,do hope things work out for you. Sending prayers & healing vibes to you.
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post #17 of 29 Old 07-30-2012, 01:32 PM
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is there a therapeutic riding center in your area ? you might be able to go there with her and have them help you teach her some skills to help you. they could also help you learn to ride now that you have less use of your hands and legs.

sorry you are going through this =[ your horse will help you get through it though, dont give up on her !

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post #18 of 29 Old 07-30-2012, 04:26 PM
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You don't have to ride to enjoy your horse, they are amazingly therapeutic if all you are doing is standing next to them with your head buried in a mane, crying your **** eyes out, they are part of your life, and your healing.

Having a goal to aim for is important, and it can be as simple as being able to groom her, then it works.

You have no idea what your future looks like, but she will always be able to lift your spirits.
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post #19 of 29 Old 09-01-2012, 10:52 PM Thread Starter
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Good news! I have had tons of intensive (and expensive - like $8000.00 a bottle ) medication, and I can WALK! Of course i have already managed to get on Nibbles and managed to stay on! LOL. I will need treatment probably once a month, and I still have issues with balance and coordination, but I can ride, and that is the main thing. My main problem now is I have chronic fatigue and will probably always have it. It's hard to get enough energy to even get out of bed, let alone work and ride, but I'm forcing myself. Heat, stress, and fatigue make my condition
MUCH worse (like not being able to walk), so my Dr said to totally avoid those things - DOes he live in the real world????? Anway, the Dr said to expect relapses, but as long as I know theyat I will get better, I'm OK. Thanks for the support!

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post #20 of 29 Old 09-01-2012, 11:12 PM
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Keep her! If she's is your motivation to get better then most defiantly keep her. She won't mind not being ridden constantly, but you will stay happy with her.
I hope you see more Improvement:)
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