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post #1 of 62 Old 06-26-2012, 11:52 AM Thread Starter
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Why We Can't All Be String Beans

So this has been bothering me for quite awhile. And if you're bothered by venting, leave my thread this instant.

One day at my old place of work, a few of the supervisors (myself included) were talking and for some reason it came to the subject of weight. We all scoped each other out and then compared wrist sizes. To my dismay, the three other people in charge had little petite wrists, whereas mine was thicker and more "manly." The look on their faces was equal to a cold hard slap with a cod.. they said something like "We're just build differently."

For awhile I used to really loathe that about myself. I don't have a very girlish figure. I have really really wide hips, an hourglass shape, but no chest, wide ankles, wide wrists, strange hands, and big feet.

Everywhere we go and there is someone more lean than I (despite me eating healthy and working out) my dad makes a comment about them having a "wasp waist" and somehow makes me feel as though he sees me as being too big. But it's not me, it's my anatomy.

Keep this under wraps, but I can feel my ribs very easily. I have no inch of fat on my body except for my caboose and thighs, the rest is pure muscle. I can't change the width of my hips or my waist size. Unless I want to turn into a skeleton, I can't ever become a 2. I'm a 5 or a 7 (it depends), which I'm fine with.

I guess I just wanted to let everyone know that you can't be a certain size or a certain shape. You can only be you, and as long as you're healthy (apologies to those on my FB as this was my status haha!) then it's all good! We shouldn't drive ourselves crazy over measurements or pounds.. but over-all health.

It's like with a horse with a stocky build (like me) versus a little teacup Arab. There is no way that they could ever be the same, perhaps they weigh 200lbs different than one another. Doesn't mean one is fat and one isn't.. that's just what works for their body type.

It breaks my heart to see people so upset because they aren't a certain number. I used to be the same way.. anything more than 129 and I'd flip out. But I've stopped weighing myself and I'm only focusing on how I feel and what I eat.

And hey, there's a certain charm to my slightly thick bone. If I was any weedier I wouldn't look nearly as good on my horse either, because he's a little thicker boned as well.

You just gotta love and accept yourself, and work hard towards the goal of becoming, or maintaining, a healthy body (and spirit!)

That is my near 4am thought for you all.. and now I can look back at that time when we compared wrists and laugh about it. There should be no need to compare yourself to anyone, ever.

"Strength is the ability to use a muscle without tension"
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post #2 of 62 Old 06-26-2012, 12:15 PM
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As someone who has just put in a huge amount of kitchen-related effort into regaining 10% of my bodyweight after illness...

Being thinner than your healthy weight is awful. I lost all my strength. After one kg fell off, I couldn't pick up chaff bags in a fireman's lift, after three I could barely chase Brock round his paddock, and after 5 I was barely able to walk up the hill back home.

People are like horses, built in all different shapes. You wouldn't expect an Andalusian to look like an Arab, or a Shetland like a QH. Health is far more important than shape (magazines like to say different, and they make a lot of money out of it) and if you're the healthy weight for your body shape you give off a happy glow, rather than looking like I did - a half-dead zombie with falling out hair, pallid skin and big black rings under my eyes. Not to mention on the brink of selling Brock because I couldn't ride or care for him...

So here's to everyone being healthy and happy - cos you're all beautiful! Yes you men too, no need for protein shakes, endless gym sessions and (ugh) steroids. Just get on a horse
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post #3 of 62 Old 06-26-2012, 04:19 PM
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Well muscled obliques will be larger than the women who are "wasp waisted". Part of having the tiny tiny waist is little to no muscle there. Not true for eveyone of course but if you look at athletic women, their waistlines tend to be straighter.

The thickness of your wrist, after a point, is more about gone structure than weight.

In the older generation, a thick figure with a tiny waist was the "in" thing.
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Honey, it just means you have curves. I'd much rather have my "full" figure than look like some of the flat chested, no hips "hot" girls

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post #5 of 62 Old 06-26-2012, 07:40 PM
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If you have tiny thin bones now, you will have osteoporosis when you get old and your bones will be all brittle and break. Health is important. Looking like some emaciated model is not important.

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post #6 of 62 Old 06-26-2012, 07:59 PM
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I like being big, I'm harder to kidnap.

On a serious note though I could stand to loose a few dozen or so lbs. Slow and steady as not to yo yo diet or starve myself.
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I definitely agree with littrella! I was always so worried about weight. I was a weight freak and it started to worry my parents. I was skinny until I hit about 16 years old, because I had bad eating habits growing up (then again, I don't know anyone that didn't have good eating habits growing up!), and unfortunately the eating caught up with me in weight and I hit 135 on the scale. To me at least, that was not good. For months I worked out and ate healthy every single day, exceptions to the occasional sweets I had here and there, and now my weight is always somewhere between 108-110lbs. I STILL get worried about my weight. I indulge on fats and sweets for one day and I'm worried that I'll put a pound or two on. Then I realize, I'd rather have a curvey figure than look like a tiny stick with nothing.

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post #8 of 62 Old 06-26-2012, 08:31 PM
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We all can't look the same, as long as you're healthy and fit, you are as good as you can be. When you are fit & healthy, you are happy because you feel good & look good, the rest of it, big boobs, small ones, big feet, small butt, doesn't mean nothing, different shapes and all look beautiful.
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Exactly :) So I just wanted to pass that along to everyone because it took me a darn long time to figure it out and truly be okay with it.
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post #10 of 62 Old 06-26-2012, 11:24 PM
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Originally Posted by littrella View Post
Honey, it just means you have curves. I'd much rather have my "full" figure than look like some of the flat chested, no hips "hot" girls
On the flip side, this statment can be hurtful as well. As one of those "flat chested, no hips" girls that just happens to be that way through no particular action of mine(genetics or what ever), I've got to say, this way of thinking is just as offensive as the reverse.

Self appreciation through the depreciation of others is never okay, no matter what "side" you happen to fall on.

Off my soap box now...

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