Originally Posted by DancingArabian View Post
VS is the only store around me that carries sizes I can wear. I'm either a 32dd or 30ddd depending on the style. I've yet to find a corset - even at the ren fests!
I used to be big (210 lbs at 5'4") and now I'm not. I really hate the comments people make about how much I eat (a LOT), how hard I work out (hard), how small I am (kind of on the small side). I always wonder why people have this compelling urge to say something. Is it supposed to make the other person feel good to hear "eat a burger!" (especially after I've already had 4) or "is ALL THAT your lunch?" or anything a lot those lines. Should the recipient be apologizing? Laughing? You don't walk up to someone and go "honey maybe you really shouldn't eat that hmm?" or "good lord you're HUGE" why would it be okay the other way around? Save the big booty "compliments" for the stock breeds!
I know how you feel, I don't think people realize just how much those small little comments hurt. I've never been on the larger size and for years I struggled just to put on just one pound. I was never completely insecure about my weight, it bothered me a little that I couldn't seem to gain weight, but my parents and my doctor weren't concerned so I wasn't extremely worried about it. In August, I joined the NROTC program at college and I work out with the Marines, they rarely let up on the comments about my size. I'm 5'10", and weigh 150 lbs (now, before I weighed 140), but I'm lean. I'm not built into my body and my wrists are small (sadly there isn't anythign I can do about making them bigger, I've checked). People were almost always commenting on how thin I was, adn that I needed to put meat on my bones. And then in November (before I gained the ten pounds) someone said something and then didn't stop for all morning. They said, "Wow, you're so thin. Go eat some pizza." (I was working at a charity drive and they were serving pizza). And throughout the morning there were little comments about how I needed to eat more because otherwise I'd blow away. I played them off and laughed about them because I didn't want to seem like I was easily hurt, but those comments really struck deep. I didn't even know the person. I never felt so bad about myself in my entire life. I eat so much food, I'm always hungry, but I barely gain weight. And yes, I don't remember who it was who said this, a lot of skinny people are slightly jealous of those who fit into their bodies. I guess it's one of those things that you want what you can't have or have difficulty getting.
I think people say comments like that because they feel like they're being helpful, pointing out "flaws" that they think need to be fixed, when in fact, they don't realize that the person is doing everything in their power to fix the very thing that they feel is a flaw but is rather only a fact in life, something that can't be easily fixed.
As one verse from the song "I Keep Looking" by Martina McBride says, "Straight haired girls, they all want curls, and brunettes want to be blonde. It's a typical thing you got yin you want yang, it just goes on and on."
I feel better now that I gained those ten pounds, I don't feel quite so skinny, I honestly feel better, the funny thing about it is that I still look skinny, I just don't feel skinny anymore.