Originally Posted by Doodlesweaver
The problem is the other person who owns the horse now is the rightful owner. Are you trying to love your horse and make sure he is safe or settle a decade old vendetta with your father? I would feel sorry for you but if you were coming after a horse I'd purchased from someone else and loved I would shut you down, too. Loss is not the same thing as failure and the response to loss is not the same as the response to failure. The former requires one to grieve and the latter requires a can do attitude. There is no amount of fighting that will fix what needs to be grieved. Admitting someone else owns your horse doesn't make you a failure. It means you are in touch with reality. It also doesn't mean your father wins to acknowledge your loss, it makes you an adult. The most important thing is the knowledge that your horse was well treated and it sure sounds like he was. I will pray this knowledge can bring you peace one day.
On a positive note think how much love and energy you could give another horse who would love that much devotion. I never thought I would love a horse as much as I did my pony, Rex. I grieved for years after he died. But now I own other horses and they are the apples of my eye. You have love to give and need a positive outlet. Sometimes letting go is the only way to let the new and good into your life.
I want to see for myself that he's safe and happy. I'll do what it takes to find him.
Your situation is different then mine. Your pony died.
I lost my son in September and I can let him go.
That is much easier then attempting to let Joe go. He's like my Son who
Is lost in the world.
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