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post #11 of 55 Old 05-18-2014, 11:58 AM Thread Starter
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If he has gone through that many folks already there is a chance you may never get the answers you are looking for. It sucks that your Dad has done you this way; but, you need to allow yourself to heal and move on.

All you can do is hope the old boy lands softly in a home that loves him as much as you love him.
Failure is not a option for me. I will keep searching and that nice home will be back with me where he belongs :)
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post #12 of 55 Old 05-18-2014, 12:01 PM
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I'm very sorry that your horse was sold/given away, but you can't continue to harass people about him. The owners are under no obligation to give you any information, and at this point they could file a restraining order on you.

Not all stories end happily, unfortunately. It's been almost 9 years. It's time to move on and start healing. Your obsession is only hurting you.

You want the truth? You can't HANDLE the truth!
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Yes for all the naysayers Out there..im only going to say this once..my daughter has been looking for her horse for a very long time..it was not my ex - husband horse it was mine..and it was my stable that she was working at..I had given smokey to her because she clicked with him and taught him everything he knows..this man sold him for no reason..im sick and tired of all the mean and hateful words that are coming from some of you..and you know who you are..if you can't say something positive or try to help..then just keep your spiteful and opinions to yourself..if you want to take me on im a big girl..so there you have it the truth. .thank you others for your help and kind words..Darklady
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I'm very sorry that your horse was sold/given away, but you can't continue to harass people about him. The owners are under no obligation to give you any information, and at this point they could file a restraining order on you.

Not all stories end happily, unfortunately. It's been almost 9 years. It's time to move on and start healing. Your obsession is only hurting you.
Then let them file restraining orfers... I don't care. Wont stop me. I'll keep searching.
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Yes for all the naysayers Out there..im only going to say this once..my daughter has been looking for her horse for a very long time..it was not my ex - husband horse it was mine..and it was my stable that she was working at..I had given smokey to her because she clicked with him and taught him everything he knows..this man sold him for no reason..im sick and tired of all the mean and hateful words that are coming from some of you..and you know who you are..if you can't say something positive or try to help..then just keep your spiteful and opinions to yourself..if you want to take me on im a big girl..so there you have it the truth. .thank you others for your help and kind words..Darklady
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Thank you mom :) god I miss Joe. Gyess you could technically say he was stolen wasn't he?
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The problem is the other person who owns the horse now is the rightful owner. Are you trying to love your horse and make sure he is safe or settle a decade old vendetta with your father? I would feel sorry for you but if you were coming after a horse I'd purchased from someone else and loved I would shut you down, too. Loss is not the same thing as failure and the response to loss is not the same as the response to failure. The former requires one to grieve and the latter requires a can do attitude. There is no amount of fighting that will fix what needs to be grieved. Admitting someone else owns your horse doesn't make you a failure. It means you are in touch with reality. It also doesn't mean your father wins to acknowledge your loss, it makes you an adult. The most important thing is the knowledge that your horse was well treated and it sure sounds like he was. I will pray this knowledge can bring you peace one day.

On a positive note think how much love and energy you could give another horse who would love that much devotion. I never thought I would love a horse as much as I did my pony, Rex. I grieved for years after he died. But now I own other horses and they are the apples of my eye. You have love to give and need a positive outlet. Sometimes letting go is the only way to let the new and good into your life.

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Nobody is being nasty to the OP. In fact, you and the OP are being the nasty ones, just because people aren't throwing rainbows, glitter, and urging Smokey to keep trying no matter what.

It's been many years. Instead of encouraging your daughter to continue obsessing over a horse that's long gone, it would be better for her to channel that energy into loving another one that she CAN own.

I feel sorry for the OP, but the reality is that the horse is gone and may not even be alive any longer. This is an unhealthy obsession, and it's time to get on with her life.

Smokey, harassing people who have done nothing wrong will only land you in trouble with the law. Unless you want a criminal record and remanded for psychiatric evaluation, you need to stop with the unbalanced behavior.

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I was not talking about you Speed Racer I talking about the Deschutes she had problems with this person last year..she said a lot of mean things..I just wanted to let you all know the truth. .he was my horse I gave him to my daughter. .my husband did not own him..and all my daughter wants is to see him and know he's ok..what is wrong with that..nothing..shes not going to take joe away form somebody..she just wants to see him..its just like any other horse..when someone buys them and you want to be able to see them once and awhile. .thats all she's ever wanted..
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The problem is the other person who owns the horse now is the rightful owner. Are you trying to love your horse and make sure he is safe or settle a decade old vendetta with your father? I would feel sorry for you but if you were coming after a horse I'd purchased from someone else and loved I would shut you down, too. Loss is not the same thing as failure and the response to loss is not the same as the response to failure. The former requires one to grieve and the latter requires a can do attitude. There is no amount of fighting that will fix what needs to be grieved. Admitting someone else owns your horse doesn't make you a failure. It means you are in touch with reality. It also doesn't mean your father wins to acknowledge your loss, it makes you an adult. The most important thing is the knowledge that your horse was well treated and it sure sounds like he was. I will pray this knowledge can bring you peace one day.

On a positive note think how much love and energy you could give another horse who would love that much devotion. I never thought I would love a horse as much as I did my pony, Rex. I grieved for years after he died. But now I own other horses and they are the apples of my eye. You have love to give and need a positive outlet. Sometimes letting go is the only way to let the new and good into your life.
I want to see for myself that he's safe and happy. I'll do what it takes to find him.
Your situation is different then mine. Your pony died.
I lost my son in September and I can let him go.
That is much easier then attempting to let Joe go. He's like my Son who
Is lost in the world.
I will find him
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Nobody is being nasty to the OP. In fact, you and the OP are being the nasty ones, just because people aren't throwing rainbows, glitter, and urging Smokey to keep trying no matter what.

It's been many years. Instead of encouraging your daughter to continue obsessing over a horse that's long gone, it would be better for her to channel that energy into loving another one that she CAN own.

I feel sorry for the OP, but the reality is that the horse is gone and may not even be alive any longer. This is an unhealthy obsession, and it's time to get on with her life.

Smokey, harassing people who have done nothing wrong will only land you in trouble with the law. Unless you want a criminal record and remanded for psychiatric evaluation, you need to stop with the unbalanced behavior.

One how am I harassing?
Two it's not unhealthy
Three he's not dead
Four I will keep searching
No matter what ppl say
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