Join Date: May 2009
Location: Mid Northern TN
I am glad you both got home safe, and would also be double (and triple!) checking that bridle to make sure it never happens again.
I suppose it's all about what you want to get out of your ride. I enjoy taking green horses and riders out (though hopefully only one or the other at a time) because my guy is happy to lead, follow, pony and go through or over everything. BUT that is because I like helping people get out of the arena and showing them a big world, and I have spent hundreds of hours working with him to get him 'dead broke' because I think it's fun to be able to help newbies gain some experience and confidence. He is NOT allowed to act up or out no matter how many hundreds of times we stop and stand waiting for someone else on a ride, or just because I want to look at a pretty view, or drink water, or whatever.
A ride gets bonus points if I like the person and like chatting with them. If I LIKE the person and hanging out with them, I am more apt to put up with riding quirks (horse or human) which would otherwise irritate me. Generally the only things that I really can't/wont deal with are people who are hard on their horses (yanking, kicking, fighting rather than training, etc).
If my horse does ANYTHING, that is my responsibility, and other horse's are the other riders' responsibility. That said, I try to make sure everyone's okay with the activities we're doing and am not going to gallop off an leave someone if I know their horse may have a fit or act up in a way they aren't comfortable with or wanting to school their horse on. I like to run and jump and go through streams or hills or whatever for 25 miles, alone or not makes no difference to me. I also like to go for a nice horseback walk in the woods with good people too, one of the best times you can spend with friends, IMO.
If riding with this other person or any other person is not rewarding and doesn't make you smile, don't do it. For most of us hobby folks horses and riding are supposed to be fun. If it's not, at least on average, you're doing it wrong.