As I kid, I roughed it, too. Now I like all the comforts of home. Even backpacking I take the wine and stemwear! Just 'cause I go to the back woods don't mean I can't be civilized!
OK, when backpacking I wash in the lake. But with a horse to help carry the gear there's no reason not to have a hot shower when needed/desired! Although for just an overnight it might not be worth it. Ask me next summer after I've done a few!
I've been doing a bunch of internet exploring the last couple of weeks and have found a whole slug of places where we can camp and leave the boys to play at camp while the Mrs. And I go for long day rides. Or where we can get dropped off with the horses and meet the boys 8 or 10 miles down the trail and all camp together.
And a lot of places where we can leave the boys behind and have some Quality Time with just us and the horses!
I bet there's two or three dozen good destinations within an hour's drive of home. Only 4 or 5 more months and it'll be camping season! WooHoo!