I have a really good friend who loves to ride. He was the one to show us the trails around where we live. He doesn't have anyone to ride with - his wife doesn't ride and his kids only go on very short rides around their property at this point. My hubby and I have ridden with in the past several times and it is just no fun. Our riding styles are very different and it always seems that we end up riding his way and he never rides our way.
We like to do a lot of trotting and cantering on the trails. We do walk to give the horses a breather and footing/weather dependent, but our horses just love trotting off down the trail. He likes to walk. And only walk. He also rides bareback almost every time and ends up doing a few strides trotting then walks, then trots and then walks. Personally this drives me crazy because I can never get into a groove. Our horses generally end up getting very annoyed too. He has also gotten off to have a break (we had only been going for 20 minutes or so) and dropped the lead line stating that his horse never moves and then watched in shock as she took off. We spent the rest of the time walking back to the trailer hoping she was there.
The problem is that he lives just down the road from our favorite trail head. He doesn't have a trailer so this is the only place he rides and we feel guilty going there without him knowing how badly he wants to join us. I really enjoy hanging out with him and his wife (the 4 of us are always getting together for dinners and such) and don't want to hurt his feelings or ruin the friendship at all. Any ideas on how to politely let him know that we are uninterested in riding with him?
(oh - he is very old school cowboy and very full of pride, so telling him is tricky)