Well, Cherie's thread over in the training section, This is how we train a fearless trail horse! has helped me like you wouldn't believe. I have printed it off and regarded it as holy scripture ever since.
I think I get it now. I understand what I need to do. I really want to succeed. I really want to get my horse to the level of our pony (who I ride almost every day). The pony is dead broke in every aspect, and is a trail horse extraordinaire. She'll ride out alone and with a group, no spook, no anxiety, no anticipation, just a nice, easy, beginner-safe ride. It's not like my horse is a dangerous nutcase. She's just...not as broke as the pony, and I really want to get her there.
Anyways...a little off topic...I think I know what I need to do, and I think, because I know this, that I can do it confidently. But is it really that simple? Do miles really equate an awesome trail horse? Is experience and exposure all it takes? Surely it can't be so straightforward as that?
I also have one question, about crossing water. My horse doesn't refuse to cross a whole lot (she tends to just plow her way through things like a tank), but she does not like water, and she fights. Fights, as in, stubbornly refuses and won't give up. When there is any progress, it's negligible and there's no clear winner. I know it proves my incompetence and inexperience, but hey-I am incompetent and inexperienced, so-how do I teach her to cross water? More importantly, I need to learn how to teach her to obey me 100% of the time...so how do I do this?