stubborn mare? or scared rider?
I just bought my first horse two months ago from a trail riding facility. I was told that the other horses picked on her and would not let her eat any hay. They said they didn't use her too much because she walked slowly. I rode her and she was a dream! I put down a deposit on her and was going to pay her off about a month after that. I wasn't able to get back up there again until I paid her off and when I did I could see her ribs. I had her moved to a pasture that the owner of the trail facility owned for about a month, then had her moved to a boarding facility. The past two weekends we went on group trail rides and each time something happened. The first time she did great until we reached a big mud hole, then she stopped and refused to go on. Everytime I would kick her to go she'd just turn to look at me. Someone tried to pony her across, but she refused to move. So I got down to try and pony her across, didn't work. Reins slipped and she walked off. She stopped a ways off in the woods and let me catch her and lead her back. Then me and another guy had to pull her across the mud while another whirled a whip behind her. After getting across she was fine. Then sunday we went on another ride and this time it was any type of water crossing, whether it was little or small. The first one she stopped at and refused to go. I would kick her to get her to go, but she'd turn to look at me. Then she started kicking when I kicked her or slapped her butt. Then she did a little buck. After 10 minutes of this I got off and tried swishing the whip around her butt, didn't work. Then the barn owner came back to tap her on the butt with the whip. Kyanne started bucking and kicking and then tried getting to the BO. Luckily there was a tree to take the blow. I had to go across the creek to pull her across. Then another time she stopped and refused to go on. When I kicked her she'd kick her rear leg. She started fighting me and kept trying to turn around to go the other way. I was shaking so bad so I got down (which I realize now I should not have done). Another guy tried ponying her across the water but she would not go, ended up breaking the bridal. I had to walk across the creek to ride with a friend. Once I was across the creek Kyanne came across just fine. The guy that walked her across lent me his bridal and road his horse in her halter. We had to cross one more really small creek. It was litterally one step on the side of the decline then one step up, but she still wouldn't go. Stupid me got off of her when she started kicking, but then I got right back on. She actually turned around to try and walk away, luckily I was able to get control of her and led her back to the "creek". Someone pulled her across again, getting slammed into the tree. The barn owner then said that we needed to go back over it because she learned a trick and if we didn't fix it that she would only be worse next time we go riding. So we followed the BO back through the creek and then back again. We then took a short cut through the woods to more creeks to try and undo what was done. We went through two creeks and she went no problem. It's something I don't get. What was I doing wrong? Last time she was fine with the creeks, the only problem was the mud hole. This time she did fine with the mudhole. And the last two creeks she did fine on. It was muddy out, but to make her act like that? What should I have done differently? Any advice is very much apprecaited.
I would rather ride my horse than my husband; She's funner and doesn't expect anything in return!