Seeking bit advice & neck reining training tips

Thank you for your advice. I will keep practiing and learning more all the time.

My grandma keeps telling me I use my spurs to much and need to use my body more and Toby would respond better. She (my horse) doesn't like spurs she bucks, hops etc when I use them.

Do you have a trainer?

The trainner I had was big on using spurs and crops.
My grandma used to train and was one who never used these tools but body movements.