Any one who has had around three months or has similar experience with confidence stopping progress please let me know your story and any advice /comments welcome. Thank you!
Hi netty! I, too, have been out of the saddle for quite some time (10+ years) and have just recently started taking lessons again. I was due for lesson No. 9 on Sunday, but was rained out. So, I'm about -- give or take -- where you're at now. (Disclaimer: I'm riding English, but given our levels, well ...
My trainer is just 25 (I'm 32), but she's great and makes sure to explain everything to me -- if this horse is a pain to catch, if there's anything special I need to do for this particular horse while mounted, how their gaits are, etc. and that *really* helps me know what to expect and prepare myself mentally. And I completely
trust her and the horses she puts me on. Until I'm able to trust myself more, I think that's a major help to me.
Right now, I'm still doing walk-trot around the ring, building up my balance and trying to remember how to put everything back together. My trainer told me that during the next lesson, she wants me to give cantering a go. She asked me if I was ready to canter last lesson, but my legs felt weak (and she caught me off guard), so I declined, but told her I'd work up my mind to give it a go the next time. (I've gone from being a little apprehensive to looking forward to it. Hope it goes well -- I'll know Wednesday.)
For me, I like not having a lot of unnecessary surprises and my trainer's really good at letting me know what she has planned for me for that lesson as well as the next lesson.
And this is probably really silly, but ... whenever I find myself getting anxious about a task or about an upcoming lesson, I just try to compare it to something I do at work or a real life situation. Nine times out of 10, the real life situation is far scarier/difficult than what I'm doing with a horse. The funny thing with me riding though, is that I'm not so much scared of getting hurt as I am just looking like a total goober.
But I'm probably just a little 'off' there. :)
Is getting hurt your biggest fear?
As for your little mishap: I've found that when my horse trips, or misbehaves and leaves me wary, if I give it a little time, the fear/uneasiness just passes after a couple of good lessons. Also, instead of thinking of it as a mishap, why not think of it as an experience? As in, 'this is what happened when my horse slipped on wet grass. I didn't fall off, I'm proud that I acted appropriately and didn't freak out. I now know what to expect should this happen again.'
Sorry for the length ... I've been itching to tell other horsey people how my lessons are going. It'd be cool if you kept us up to date on how things are going though.
It always feel like I'm the only adult having to relearn everything.