To start your horse has to be supple & you must be able to control the different parts of his body. Lateral exercises are great for this

. Don't worry about headsets when working on frame & self carriage,your horse has to learn to use his body,be able to round himself & find impulsion from behind,not something you can develop overnight

. The headset will come pretty natural once the horse has learned how to use himself

.This is a common training problem people try to create the headset & force a false collection,this is where you see horse breakdown

This article I found pretty good read
Keep Those Shoulders Up: Mastering Self-Carriage