Originally Posted by Flyinghigh12
Have you ever lunged her before riding? It might help with the energy level before you ride. Make sure that when you're lunging you start off her at a walk then trot then lope.
You're horse has to learn how to give to the bit before you ask for collection, or it'll never happen.
Lunging a gaited horse can be difficult too. They are simply not built to go round and round in 60 foot circles.
I really think the first order of business is to find out if the mare is physically able to do some of the things the OP wants her to. Photos would be very helpful.