Originally Posted by gamingirl22
My 10 year old 15 hand Quarter Horse mare has been very bad lately while I've been riding her. She loves to run, so I let her gallop in the field. But when I tell her it's time to slow down by using 'press and release' on the reins, she simply ignores me and barely slows down at all!! Also, after I finally get her stopped, she's very antsy and wants to run again, so I pull back a little on the reins and tell her to whoa or at least slow down but when I do that, she pulls her head forward and takes the reins out of my hands or she just won't stand still. She listens to me very well at the walk and trot, but when I ask her to canter she just takes off into a gallop and I feel bad because I'm constantly pulling back on her mouth but I don't know how to make her listen to me. Do I need a stronger bit?
I was thinking that maybe I should lunge her before I ride her and maybe she'll listen to me better after that, but I just don't have time to lunge her and ride her and also exercise my other horses when I get home from school in the wintertime. What should I do?? I mean I want my horse to have some speed because I want her to be a gaming horse, but I want to be able to control her!
This question you asked almost a month ago will get the same answers as your current question about using a stronger bit.
No, you do not need a stronger bit. And no, I would not put your horse anywhere near gaming events until you can control your horse. This is exactly the type of situation where if you don't slow down and re-train your horse, you are going to create a monster in the arena.
Your horse already has some terrible bad habits that were created accidentally by YOU the rider. Whether that started with allowing her to jerk on the bit, or continuing to pull on the reins when she was already stopped, or sending her mixed body signals .... the end result is the same and she needs to be retrained.
You've got great advice going on your other thread, so I won't repeat it here, but I still think a few riding lessons with an experienced trainer will help wonders. It is much better to see these things in person.