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post #1 of 20 Old 04-30-2013, 06:39 PM Thread Starter
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I feel like I should just quit riding

Ugh lately I have been taking lessons from the BO of the ranch I voluntedr at, anf I feel like a total incompetent moron. I have NEVER had lessons before and I've been backing up the trail rides at the ranch for a year and during that time I only knew how to kick to go, neck rein and pull to stop. So during that year I've developed some really bad habits. Im always bracing the stirrups, im always tense, I don't even steer right when im not neck reining. I just feel like a total drag, I feel like im screwing up the horses. Today we worked on serpentines and canter leads and everyone else did so much better than me. Any ways, do you guys have any advice on how to sit in the proper position and stop myself from always bracing the stirrups?
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post #2 of 20 Old 04-30-2013, 06:42 PM
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If you feel like a "moron" because everyone rides better than you, maybe you should quit. Someone who has a real passion to learn to ride better and does not give a hoot about how others ride but wants to ride themselves is a real horse person, the rest are wannabes.
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I would certainly hope the person you are taking lessons from is doing better than you.

I spent all last year torturing myself by putting myself in group lesson after group lesson of people who were older, more experience, and on better trained horses than me. THAT made me a better rider than anything else ever could.

Pssh.I didn't pick up the wrong lead
It's called a counter canter...
...A very advanced maneuver.
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If you feel like a "moron" because everyone rides better than you, maybe you should quit. Someone who has a real passion to learn to ride better and does not give a hoot about how others ride but wants to ride themselves is a real horse person, the rest are wannabes.
No its not because everyone is better than me, I do have true passion, if I didnt I wouldve.left a long time ago. Its hard to explain how I feel. Im just so frusterated at myself.
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No its not because everyone is better than me, I do have true passion, if I didnt I wouldve.left a long time ago. Its hard to explain how I feel. Im just so frusterated at myself.
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Ignorance is bliss.. to all but the horse. You didn't realize your riding could be better before, now you do and you're criticizing yourself every step of the way.

Quit it.

It's called learning for a reason. It's a process of trial and error, growing from your mistakes, and landing flat on your ass. Get up, brush yourself off, and stop comparing yourself to everyone else. You learn at your own pace. You exceed at your own pace. You will not exceed if you are negative or cruel to yourself.

"Strength is the ability to use a muscle without tension"
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Ignorance is bliss.. to all but the horse. You didn't realize your riding could be better before, now you do and you're criticizing yourself every step of the way.

Quit it.

It's called learning for a reason. It's a process of trial and error, growing from your mistakes, and landing flat on your ass. Get up, brush yourself off, and stop comparing yourself to everyone else. You learn at your own pace. You exceed at your own pace. You will not exceed if you are negative or cruel to yourself.
Wow I have NEVER looked at it that way before... that's alli can say is wow. That really opened my eyes, thank you.
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Any ways, do you guys have any advice on how to sit in the proper position and stop myself from always bracing the stirrups?
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Lu
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You have gotten some good advice about you. Now for you riding, when you say you are bracing on the stirrups, are you saying your legs are to far forward and pushing hard on the stirrups? If so a few ideas, drop your stirrups walk first then trot I would sugjest cantering or loping without stirrups for someone I have never seen ride. But walk and trotting should be fine. If you are pushing your feet out infront of you posting would be really really good for you (much more the cantering) its almost impossible to post and keep you feet out infront of you. But, If you are having possition problems speeding up is not going to help. You have to have a good seat and good possition before you start speeding things up.

But don't give up, and stop compareing yourself to others. Its funny when we compare ourselves to others its always up, I don't know many people that always compare themselves to people that are worse then themselves at something.
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I'm glad you see things differently.

"Strength is the ability to use a muscle without tension"

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[QUOTE=CowboyBob;2393882]You have gotten some good advice about you. Now for you riding, when you say you are bracing on the stirrups, are you saying your legs are to far forward and pushing hard on the stirrups? If so a few ideas, drop your stirrups walk first then trot I would sugjest cantering or loping without stirrups for someone I have never seen ride. But walk and trotting should be fine. If you are pushing your feet out infront of you posting would be really really good for you (much more the cantering) its almost impossible to post and keep you feet out infront of you. But, If you are having possition problems speeding up is not going to help. You have to have a good seat and good possition before you start speeding things up.

But don't give up, and stop compareing yourself to others. Its funny when we compare ourselves to others its always up, I don't know many people that always compare themselves to people that are worse then themselves at something.[/
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If you are bracing against the stirrups, stop. Make a point of consciously relaxing your legs. Personally, when I braced with my legs - and I've done it plenty - I also grip with my knees. So if I try to pry my knees apart while riding, my legs have to stop bracing.

If no stirrup work isn't an option, try to see how light you can be in the stirrup. Try to ride with your feet barely touching the stirrup. Riding my mare stirrupless isn't a real smart option, but riding her with my feet barely touching the stirrups is!

When I started riding, people told me my toes should be forward. That always resulted in a stiff, braced leg for me. So did hearing "heels down". And when people told me to put weight in my heels, I did it by pushing down my heels - which also resulted in a braced, tense leg. The right way to have 'weight in your heels' is to keep your leg loose, so the weight flows uninterrupted into your heels.

If you can post pictures, it would help. Some of it depends on how you are built and what horse & saddle you ride. My daughter's favorite saddle puts me in a severe chair seat & makes my knees ache after about 20 minutes...but she loves the saddle.

... Energy is an admirable thing, but the energy of stupidity seldom avails much..." - On Seats and Saddles (1868), Francis Dwyer, Major of Hussars (light cavalry)
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