My Coach Is A Stereotype

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    07-12-2012, 07:52 PM
My Coach Is A Stereotype

A good family friend of mine has been coming out to help with the horses. I love her method of teaching and have been making a lot of progress under her guidance. I now have a big problem with her. She stereotypes everything about western riding. My posture, my leg placement, blah, blah, blah. She even blamed my western saddle on the fact that Nelly (An OTSB) rushes into her stall. I can see how riding western for so long may have had a little bit to do with how I sit in an English saddle today, but come on. Yeah, I find her comments a little offensive, but I've never said anything to her about it. Not sure if I should. My mums horse is showing signs of stiff stifles, so I've been cantering her and galloping her straight lines, and I have to say, it's heck of a lot of fun considering that I never liked to ride her. She hates to ... eh move. And my mum mentioned to my coach that I've been enjoying it. And this is what she said about that. "Ugh, western pleasure, the F***ers." I'm not exactly what to think of that. I don't really understand what is being implied by that statement, but I'm making my own assumptions. I'm not sure if I should talk to her about it, and let her know that the comments she makes are offensive to me ... What would I say to her?
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    07-12-2012, 07:54 PM
I would suppose if you want to keep working with her, say nothing?
    07-12-2012, 10:46 PM
Tell her you find her potty mouth rude and offensive. Most will quit once attention is drawn to it.
    07-12-2012, 11:11 PM
If you want to stay with her, I'd say that you'd appreciate her if she stopped criticizing your style of riding because that's what you've been trained to do and it takes time to fix it.
    07-12-2012, 11:12 PM
Wow. I find her offensive and I've been riding English all my life...
If she's that rude and looks down on you just because of your riding history, I'd dump her and find a trainer who can help without the unneeded comments.
    07-12-2012, 11:33 PM
Not only is it offensive, it's unprofessional. Whether she likes a particular discipline or not she needs to tone it down...a lot. I have my preferred disciplines and if a student of mine had or wanted to try out one that isn't my favorite, it would be horrible on my part to make digs or say things to dissuade them. I have a current student toying around with dressage lessons just to gain some new tools & perspective, I don't ride dressage but I encouraged her to try it if she wants to and then gave her the info for a place to go for those lessons. Heck, I may go even go with her and take a few myself.

I would absolutely say something to her. It may be a better route to ask your mom to talk to her about it. Then if it didn't change, I'd personally look for a new coach that appreciates you, your business and all disciplines and experience that you have or choose.
    07-13-2012, 09:31 PM
Next time she says something, just look at her and ask "What is that supposed to mean?"

I doubt she'd be able to come up with anything plausible.
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    07-18-2012, 07:35 AM
Originally Posted by spurstop    
Next time she says something, just look at her and ask "What is that supposed to mean?"

I doubt she'd be able to come up with anything plausible.
Heh, I use a similar strategy by giving them a long, steady, looking-in-the-eyes stare and wait for them to continue on the rant. Shuts 'em right down. Of course I'm an old grey cranky mare so that probably helps a lot

In all seriousness, if you overall like this person's coaching then ignore the digs and concentrate on the good parts of the lessons. I would however let her know that the "eff" word is right out the next time she starts on a rant.

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