I rode in saddles for so many years that didn't fit me that I just kind of figured that pain was a part of riding. After I outgrew my kid saddle when I was 10 or 11 (yes, I was a small child), I moved up to one of my Dad's old roping saddles. 16" seat, wide twist, flat seated torture devices is what they were LOL.
I often wonder if that isn't the source of my habit of riding with my weight on my feet. Whenever I would try to ride properly in those old saddles, they would absolutely kill my hips. Even my own roping saddle that I bought about 10 years ago hurts me...and it's got some really thick seat padding. Now, when I got my Association saddle, the difference is like night and day. Where before, all my weight would be directly on the points of my seat bones (which did cause sore and bruised spots), now, the pressure is more spread out to everything around the seat bones as well. It's like a glove down there. The only time I end up with a sore butt now is if I go for months without riding and then spend all day in the saddle. But, I think that's a combination of a hard seat saddle and a bony butt .
Point is, whether the seat fits you or not plays a big part in how comfortable it is.