I need some advice about a student of mine... - Page 2 - The Horse Forum
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #11 of 16 Old 01-26-2009, 09:49 AM
Join Date: Sep 2008
Posts: 408
• Horses: 0
There's no telling a 12 year old that she needs to move on to a different horse. You can have her ride different horses, but she's always going to love Thor and he's always going to be her baby. The only thing you can do is flat out refuse to let her ride him anymore if there's going to be jumping involved. Tell her she's welcome to come out anytime and groom him and love on him, and that she can even ride him on the flat every once in a while, but that he's worked hard his entire life and he deserves his retirement.

I went through the same thing when I was her age with a pony named Iceman. I couldn't move up because he absolutely hated jumping, so I never got past 2'3" because that's as high as he would go. I ended up showing a huge appaloosa named Q for a while, but I would still ride Iceman whenever I got a chance.
xilikeggs0 is offline  
post #12 of 16 Old 01-26-2009, 02:36 PM
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: British Columbia, Canada
Posts: 1,284
• Horses: 4
You sound like a wonderful instructor and she's a good little jumper!!

It's up to you as the adult to put your foot down. There may be tears, but what's worse, her crying or a horse in constant pain?

I'm thinking it's a confidence thing with Thor and that's why she's turning down other horses.
G and K's Mom is offline  
post #13 of 16 Old 01-28-2009, 08:45 AM
Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 426
• Horses: 0
Wow, she's really good! I can understand why she's so attached to him!!!
horsegirl123 is offline  
post #14 of 16 Old 01-28-2009, 08:51 AM
Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 33
• Horses: 0
Hi Me and my best friend (horsegirl123) ride together and were about her age. We really loved this Chesnut horse named Fidget. But we also loved to jump. Fidget was getting really old and lost his seeing ability. S every time he went up to a jump he would only see it at the last minute and panick. So my insructor told us that we needed a new challenge so thats when we both moved on to a little baby M&M (like the candy!) Every body thinks M&M is a goober. Although we think hes ARE little goober.
twinkie4 is offline  
post #15 of 16 Old 01-28-2009, 04:30 PM
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Californian
Posts: 1,979
• Horses: 2
what if you let her show him in like 2 or 3 flat classes, maybe she will slowly let him go ... then she can show her new horse (when you find one) in the jumping class' and some flat classes as well ... she might feel even more important to have 2 horses ...

or you can make a deal with her that she can have one lesson a week on him, flat only ... it can be the day that she lets her horse have the day off or something like that ...

keep us posted on how things are going!

:: Karley ::
Tucker WB/TB- 11 yr
Speedy QH/TB- 22 yr
kchfuller is offline  
post #16 of 16 Old 01-28-2009, 10:11 PM
Join Date: May 2007
Location: Montana
Posts: 955
• Horses: 2
that is a really tough situation. We actually commissioned a painting of my daughter's first pony. A "not yet famous" artist did it for a reasonable price. Maybe she can do a scrap book of photos and write some of her favorite times with the horse. That kind of celebrates and shows her appreciation for the horse. Just let her know it is okay to feel sad about moving on. Explain the sadness means she loves the horse which means she is a true horsewoman, especially if she puts the horses needs above her own emotions and concentrates on what is best for him. Just some ideas.
Juniper is offline  

Quick Reply

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.

User Name:
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:


Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
My gorjius Princess ''mine'' *ArabianPrincess* Horse Pictures 13 08-06-2009 10:00 AM
My student!!! What do you think??? EQ hunter rider Horse Riding Critique 31 12-30-2008 02:28 PM
An intro to mine.. Midwest Paint Horse Pictures 10 10-25-2008 08:51 AM
Mine at her first show *ArabianPrincess* Horse Pictures 6 05-27-2007 09:46 PM
A painting and a drawing of mine! What do you guys think? alucard Art and Craft Work 9 05-02-2007 04:01 PM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome