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post #11 of 29 Old 02-19-2012, 08:50 PM Thread Starter
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Im 26 and my current instructor is 27. Ive had others teach me that were younger then me. Ive been riding for two years.

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post #12 of 29 Old 02-19-2012, 10:38 PM
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The fact of the matter is this: only you can get over your fears. If you can't, then there isn't much your instructor (or anyone else for that matter) can do for you.

And maybe you needed to hear the unvarnished truth.

I've been riding for a grand total of a year. In that time I've had a sprained groin, sprained back and broken tailbone all from the same fall that left me unable to walk w/o a cane and crutches for three months, a separated shoulder three weeks ago, and I got buck off twice yesterday morning. And I still rode the same horse that threw me yesterday (after longeing the crap out of her) and did it again today.

So it's not like I don't know what it's like to be severely injured, have one's confidence busted, and yet overcome and keep going. And to top it off I'm almost twice as old as you, so I don't heal nearly as well.
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Response was over the top and unnecessary.

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It may be that your instructor is just trying to push you through your fear barrier, and that she feels once you take the first steps, you'll be okay. Sometimes it works that way.

However, if your reaction to being pushed that hard is to dig your heels in, maybe you need to work with another instructor for a while, at least until you get through the initial stages.

There are instructors that specialize helping riders overcame this kind of fear, it might be time to seek one out.

As far as the safety vest goes, yes, by all means, get a good one. They do protect you from certain types of injuries. My siblings bought me one after Christopher Reeve was paralyzed in a riding accident. The fact that Christophter Reever was wearing one when he was hurt, and it didn't prevent his particular mechanism of injury didn't matter. They wanted to do something to help me be safer. That's the point - good gear will make you safer, but nothing will make riding *safe*. You have to just take the precautions that make sense for your own risk/benefit analysis.

And please ignore the unhelpful people whose advice amounts to "Suck it up, buttercup." Your injury was significant, and both your physical and psychological fears are real. The fact that you are back on the horse, trying to work through these things, is brave and commendable. Obviously you are highly motivated to get back to your old riding level. You just need to find the right combination of factors (gear, horse, instructor, time, reassurance) to help you get there.

Good luck.
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Response was unhelpful and unecessary.

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post #16 of 29 Old 02-20-2012, 11:46 AM
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Originally Posted by maura View Post
There are instructors that specialize helping riders overcame this kind of fear, it might be time to seek one out.
Very much to the point! And IMHO every instructor should be able to approach people differently. I don't think "pushing" will do any good for some people.

BTW, I have a safety vest I prefer to wear when I jump. Even over tiny jumps we do. May be it looks funny, but I feel myself better approaching that fence and having that vest on.

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post #17 of 29 Old 02-20-2012, 05:16 PM
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I have had several other instructors send me students who couldn't get over injury based fears. One, who I am currently working with, had major injuries including head and shattered pelvis. The fear is real and can be debilitating. I have been really lucky to have been able to successfully help each one of them get over the gripping fear they had.

It took time and a lot of patience. But, eventually, the rider does have to be willing to push through the barriers.

I use sport psychology I learned a long time ago. I had a coach who insisted all of his students work with his sport psychologist (at his expense, no less) to help us become more effective competitors. He used "visualization" techniques. In essence, we practiced PRETENDING that we were not afraid/tense/nervous. The practice was very serious. At certain points were were to pick a favorite competitor who we admired. We were to approach an obstacle/movement the way we thought that THEY would approach it and ride that way.

These techniques not only helped me be a more effective competitor, but have since helped all of my students, especially the ones sent to me for fear issues.

PRETEND NOT TO BE AFRAID. It works, with practice.
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post #18 of 29 Old 02-20-2012, 08:35 PM
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Originally Posted by Allison Finch View Post

PRETEND NOT TO BE AFRAID. It works, with practice.
Ever hear of quantum physics? In a nutshell, it's the reason Allison's phrase is correct. The theory is that simply by changing your thinking, you can actually alter your brain chemistry to be more positive "glass is half full" than "half empty" Fake it 'til you make it. While nudging is good and getting people unstuck, you'll get there when you're ready and not a moment sooner.

Maybe try a few lessons with someone else or take a complete break from riding until the horsey bug bites you so badly, you get back on and ride like no tomorrow!
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post #19 of 29 Old 02-20-2012, 09:43 PM Thread Starter
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SO I have some good news. I have been in contact with a local equine psychology farm. She usually only uses her horses for therapy because she hasnt found anyone to come out and just ride. She has a indoor and outdoor and miles and miles of trail rides. I met with her today. She is "matching" me up with her most timid horse. I am going to just spend some time with him a few times and then ride. I hope if I don't have someone constantly telling me what I am doing wrong and I can ride at my own free will things will come back easier. All she asks is that I help groom and feed her horses...not buy the feed but just help her every once in awhile. She has a ton of saddles and is willing to let me use them as well.. Im so excited. Tidewater the horse I am bonding with is a older horse but is very calm and loving. I spent two hours with him today just walking and grooming.
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post #20 of 29 Old 02-20-2012, 09:44 PM Thread Starter
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Pretend not to be afraid- I can remember when I was afraid but acted like I wasnt when I first started riding. I picked up and learned very quickly.. So I shall pretend again :)
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