Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: New South Wales, Australia
Stress advice - walk away. I have had disagreements with one of my flatmates so many times I have started packing, ready to go away - I have nowhere to go but I figured nowhere is better than here.
What helps me - I stop I remember that my emotions are totally created by me. While other people effect what I perceive my emotions are from me, not from anyone else and not from the outside. When I remember that I start to think "why am I upset?" Have words or actions hurt me? They're not mine, they're someone elses, therefore someone elses problem.
Then I remind myself that I don't need that person, in fact I don't need anyone, it might be nice to have friends or family or flatmates, but I don't NEED them. I can survive on my own, I can be happy on my own, the others are just a bonus, so why care what they say? If they're not going to be nice, then they're not worth my time.
It always works out, they apologise, I move on because I am forgiving. But I let go of the anger, the sadness and frustration, and that annoys the person more than almost anything else I could do :P
Its funny that you had an argument with your cousin, last night I recconnected with mine online. I haven't seen her for two years, but up until a year or so ago she was my only cousin. I started talking to her and found out she is saving desperately for a car. I offered to give her my old car that I was selling if she wants it, and she was very happy. I haven't made an effort really ever, so this I think is a step in the right direction.
$25 for a lesson is good...make sure they're good instructors though.