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post #1 of 10 Old 05-16-2019, 09:35 AM Thread Starter
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Going Horseless for a While????

Hey guys! I have had horses since I was 11 years old, I'm 21 now, so for most of my life I've always had horses. My boyfriend and I are thinking about moving out on our own and getting an apartment together, the apartment we found that we both really like is more expensive than I was expecting it to be. I have a good paying job and I could manage paying my horses bills and helping out with rent and other apartment bills, but things would be pretty tight. I'd pretty much be living paycheck to paycheck and not really have money to save and put away for my future and for fun things I like doing, like concerts and going out. I've found someone who would be interested in buying my horse, she'd be staying at the same barn that I keep her at, and she'd pay me to continue her training. So if I sold out of horses for a while, I'd at least still be able to ride my horse, and get paid to ride another one. I'm thinking this would be my best option, this way I'm able to save money and possibly buy a house with land in a few years.

While I'd rather own my own horse, I think this is the smart way to be able to still be involved in horses and riding while not having the financial responsibility of a horse. I would probably only not own a horse for 1 to 2 years until my boyfriend and I get married and buy a house with land.

Has anyone else taken a hiatus from horses and how did you manage to stay sane?
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post #2 of 10 Old 05-16-2019, 09:55 AM
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I'm not in a truly similar situation to yours, but I've been out of the saddle and out of the barn for almost* a year now. I think the sanity part comes and goes. One month I am busy and doing other things that make me not really mind being out of the saddle-- and in the next month I'll miss is terribly. Having barn friends can help and hurt, but having supportive people around you in general is beneficial. I've been out of college and simply could not afford anything to do with horses (where I live it is VERY expensive). I currently got a small job so I can maybe stow some cash away for a monthly lesson or two, but as much as we hate to say it, priorities change. I've been running around with very little in the bank for a while and it has taught me to wait. Spending $100 on a single hour lesson makes me cringe nowadays, so that puts in some perspective too.

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post #3 of 10 Old 05-16-2019, 10:26 AM
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I got married at 19 and sold my horse. I was horseless for 2 years. Sometimes I would just walk in the park and start crying, I missed it so much. We lived in Texas then, and riding was cheap. My husband and I scraped up enough money to go for a trail ride for my birthday. When the people at the trail ride place saw how I rode, they started letting me train their horses and tearch them to jump. So I got to ride for free until I graduated from college.

I started horse hunting the summer after I graduated. It was just a coincidence that I got my first professional job and my next horse on the same day that summer.
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post #4 of 10 Old 05-16-2019, 10:27 AM Thread Starter
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but as much as we hate to say it, priorities change. I've been running around with very little in the bank for a while and it has taught me to wait. Spending $100 on a single hour lesson makes me cringe nowadays, so that puts in some perspective too.
I think this is very true about priorities changing. Even just a year ago I would have done anything to keep my horses, even if it meant I lived super tight everywhere else. I drove a 20 year old 3/4 truck but my horse had a brand new custom saddle, where as now I drive a 2 year old 3/4 ton truck and would rather have money in the bank to where I don't have to worry about my money and my bills at all. Especially since I'll still be able to ride pretty often and be out at the barn with my barn friends, I think that I will be okay in the sanity department.
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I started horse hunting the summer after I graduated. It was just a coincidence that I got my first professional job and my next horse on the same day that summer.

That is awesome!
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post #6 of 10 Old 05-16-2019, 01:50 PM
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There is nothing wrong with going horseless for a while. It gives you an opportunity to travel if you want and not worry so much about expenses.

But if your relationship with your boyfriend doesn't work out, you may end up missing your horse more than you thought. I warn all people in new relationships to think about this because I don't like seeing someone lose their bf and regret losing their horse as well.

If you are a good rider, you can always free lease a horse if you want more riding time. The only problem is often the horses available have issues such as bucking or other training issues.

That said, i love having my own horses and the freedom to ride whenever I feel like it. I love being able to trailer places with little advanced planning. Owning horses does make it more difficult to travel, but that is a worthwhile trade off for me.
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post #7 of 10 Old 05-16-2019, 02:48 PM
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Maybe you can lease your horse out to this person, so that if circumstances change in the future you can get your horse back, or if they keep going forward as you plan then in the future you could still sell. Just a thought, I think either way will work out for you.

I had my first horse until I was 22 when he passed away. I was training horses at the time, saving money living at home with my parents. I was ready to move out though, and had just met my boyfriend. We knew we would get along and that it would be a good thing, but for most of the beginning of our relationship I was without a horse, but still around them all day.

I let a few years go by, training horses, going to school, still making a little income, until I had finally saved $5,000. I started looking for another horse. I found Dodge, who needed me, probably more than I needed him, but it was a good thing. I knew I would start my career and I could afford the horse for 6 months while I finished school.

I accepted a job, moved, started work, and a month in a horse I had trained was offered to me for free. I took him, now living in an apartment in one of the most costly places in the world (SF bay area), with 2 horses and a jobless boyfriend.

For the past 9 months I've been paying for rent, groceries, and more for me and my boyfriend, and my 2 horses. I don't make a lot of income, less than average for the state, but enough that I can still save some, and I'm about half way to a decent down payment for a house. I also manage my money to the dime, sometimes the penny...

This works for me. Plan your income, expenses, see if you can do both, have a horse and save for your future. If you can't afford both, it may be better to skip horses for a couple years in order to afford them for a life time.
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post #8 of 10 Old 05-20-2019, 08:57 AM Thread Starter
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Just a little update for everyone! I have someone who is really interested in my filly. I actually bought a mare from her a few years back, she wants to buy her and have me continue training her. This seems like the perfect scenario for me!! I'd still be able to ride as much as I want and also still be able to save for the future!
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post #9 of 10 Old 05-25-2019, 01:16 PM
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Many years ago, when I had to downsize (I had two horses, needed to downsize to just one), I had a friend who was looking for a nice quiet trail horse, so it worked out well for both of us. It sounds like you found a great home for your filly.

I've been horseless now since 2008, my health issues pretty much forced me in to no longer being able to work, so I basically retired early (I am 62 now) and went on Soc. Sec. Disabilty. I don't care for being horseless, but I am just not quite up for riding any more, so I guess I am OK with it for the most part. I have close friends who have horses, so I can still get my horse fix if I want to.

I think it's good to plan for your future, especially now days, and be able to stash some extra money away like you are doing. I bet later on, you will get the chance to be a horse owner again some day. And how nice you can still see your filly and continue training her!
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post #10 of 10 Old 05-25-2019, 03:09 PM
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I am glad you've found someone who may be able to take on your horse!

I had periods of horselessness. I got my first horse when I was 11. The first time I was without a horse was in 2014, when I had to sell my horse in South Carolina to move to Ohio to be nearer to my family. When I moved to Ohio in 2014, my dad still had our family's horses (including the 1st horse I mentioned earlier!) Time has a funny way of moving forward, though. All 4 of our family's horses passed due to old age in the last few years. The last one passing away in April of this year. In between that, I had a very very senior horse I adopted. She was 32 when I adopted her, and passed away at 34.

Long story short... my parents have a weird dynamic that made me feel like I was upsetting my mom by going out to see the horses, and, my dad didn't seem to like me brushing his horses (or even my own senior one) or cleaning stalls, or sweeping out the barn. He'd kinda chase me out. So honestly. It felt like I had remained horseless since 2014. I could see/touch them but really not do what I like to do with them (brush, clean up after, etc)

I didn't really start losing it though until the last horse passed in April. At that point I realized... I didn't know the next time I'd see a horse. I had a bad break down (horses mean a lot to me) and I looked for some horses for my dad's barn which was now empty. He let me know he was not interested in owning horses anymore. I realized though that I -needed- to get these horses and I found a way to make it work.

In the horseless interems I did collect really nice model horses. I still have them too. I am getting portraits of my new girls done on some model horses! Trying to keep horses involved in my life somehow kept me going. Whether it was through artwork, the models, or on video games. Horses bring me a lot of peace, and those outlets did help me.

(I hope this makes sense, sorry if it was a bit scatterbrained, it is really warm here today and I spent a lot of time at the barn sweating my butt off!)

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