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post #41 of 144 Old 09-09-2017, 12:21 PM
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Originally Posted by Golden Horse View Post
Not sure if you are giving ME or HP advice there, but if you are giving it to me you are so far off the mark as to be in a different country. I have had great bosses, and some real poor ones. I learned from both and it made me a great manager.

The behaviour, attitude to work etc of this poster, as demonstrated by many many posts, over a few years leads me to believe that he may be a little challenging as an employee.

Again, of everyone has 'fun' jobs, many people just do the best they can, with what is available, work is go, do your best, make the best of it, get paid and live your life with the money you get.
Oh - oops! Got names mixed up, sorry about that.

IDK. We all have a different idea of what is fun, and I think what we find fun is what we're most likely cut out to do well. For the first time in my entire life, I'm having fun at my job. I had to take a pay cut to do it - but I'm working as a nurse manager at a nursing home. Most people would not have any fun whatsoever doing this, but it is just my cup of tea and I enjoy it more than anythiing I've ever done. I regret all the years I spent holding back on my goal of getting into management, as it turns out I'm excellent at it BECAUSE it's what I enjoy.

I'd rather be good at my job and have fun at it, plus when you're good at something and having fun at it you're much more likely to continue to go up in that direction. Now I realize I'd probably make a great Director of Nursinig, and that appears to be the direction I will go - maybe the original poster will find something higher up and better paying in the areas that he finds enjoyable.

We only live once and how do you want to spend your life - just trudging through day after day, miserable, making ends meet or meeting each day with excitement and joy? JMHO

I, too, found every manager I ever had to be difficult. Turns out I just had authority issues. I don't like being told what to do, especially by certain types of people. Now that I've learned to keep my mouth shut, my authority issues no longer get in the way of me doing a good job.
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post #42 of 144 Old 09-09-2017, 12:24 PM
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Originally Posted by newtrailriders View Post
I, too, found every manager I ever had to be difficult. Turns out I just had authority issues. I don't like being told what to do, especially by certain types of people. Now that I've learned to keep my mouth shut, my authority issues no longer get in the way of me doing a good job.

You know the worst boss I ever had? the one I had for the last 10 years, and that was ME.......not a good combination...

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post #43 of 144 Old 09-09-2017, 11:30 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by natisha View Post
I wouldn't take a lesser paying job, at a longer distance & boring work just because someone seemed nice at an interview.

I just got a new boss who is a dip stick but I'm not quitting my job over it. The few moments I see the boss it doesn't kill me to smile & say hello.

You said yourself that in a boring job you spent more time daydreaming than working. Why set yourself up for having that happen again?
Good point thanks. I think it's a big risk that I take if I do go with the new job (if I get offered it), but I just think the security blanket is very appealing to me.

If I had to see my current boss 5 days a week I would have left long ago. Sometimes I see him twice a week, other times once in a few weeks, so it varies.

Because we have a team of about 8 or 9 now, I use the company of others to my benefit. When I am with him and other members of our team, I socialize with other members to keep me away from him. I also use other members as distractions if needed. If other members want to talk to him and keep him chatting, then I am all for it! The more the better!

When in group situations, I almost never talk to him and if I have to, I keep it to as few words as possible and I am polite about it. Otherwise I keep my distance and chit chat with the others who I get along with great.

This past Thursday afternoon, I had to meet up with him and one of the other girls in the company at a college campus for an hour to scout shooting locations. He happened to bring his son with him too as he is in town for a few more days. So the girl chatting with the boss and I chatted with his son for most of the time. I didn't have to say a single word to him, it was great! The more that others talk to him to keep him distracted and away from me, the better.
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post #44 of 144 Old 09-10-2017, 12:39 AM
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Anytime you meet the employees of a new company they are going to be nice. It is expected.
Every job has potential. Do you think they would say otherwise.
Are you running to a new job or running away from an old one ?
I think the latter.

Best of luck to you.
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post #45 of 144 Old 09-10-2017, 02:20 AM
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Regardless of how amazing a job is, if there were problems being paid on time, I would leave.
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post #46 of 144 Old 09-10-2017, 10:54 AM
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Originally Posted by Hoofpic View Post
I am telling the truth about my boss. Big difference. The other guy also had a bad attitude, he was rude. Im not like that
It's entirely probable that the other guy was simply telling the truth as he saw it. Just because you don't like what is being said doesn't mean the other person has a bad attitude. I have several coworkers who are extremely blunt and don't hold back what they think of you. At first, it seemed like they were rude and had bad attitudes, but as I got to know them, I realized that wasn't necessarily the case.
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post #47 of 144 Old 09-10-2017, 10:58 AM
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Hoofpic is a Contractor and presents Invoices for payment. The man that pays the invoices could better be regarded as a 'Client' than a 'Boss'.

I'm wondering what 'security' the 'new job' would provide, and suspect it is entirely based on EI (Unemployment Benefits). If so then I feel that 'security' is very overrated. EI is temporary and very short term, and not really enough to cover living expenses.

A better option could be to start a savings fund, maybe start with depositing the $2 per hour difference in rates. And work on building a client base, increasing the number of frequent customers and regular venues.

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post #48 of 144 Old 09-10-2017, 02:27 PM
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Are the other members of the "team" contractors, or on payroll? Do they have problems being paid, especially since the company seems to be growing? It seems to me that word would get around about not getting paid, and he would have a hard time adding new employees....

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post #49 of 144 Old 09-11-2017, 09:19 AM
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Originally Posted by Hoofpic View Post
Thanks but what if they said that it's a deal breaker? (They never said this but you never know).

My boss now could get upset and just say "okay lets make today or this week your last week"
You are counting your chickens before they hatch. You have not yet been offered the new job ... and you may not.

You asked how to not burn bridges IF you are offered the new job. I suggested give your current employer two weeks, as that is standard.

Yes, your boss could dismiss you immediately. But that's burning bridges on his end, and not yours.

If it would be a deal breaker for the new job for you to not start immediately, well, I'm not sure that I would want to work somewhere that doesn't care about your current employer and industry standard of 2 weeks notice.

.....But do what you want I guess.

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Just an update: I will be staying where I am at for my reasons stated earlier. That is not to say that I wont leave in the future but I feel I need to give my current job a bit more time.

In summary, there is just too much good about my current job that I am taking a huge risk to give up. Too much potential and benefit on the table.

Should I email the ladies who interviewed me to notify them? What should I say my reason is? I will most likely look like Im an indecisive person.

Thank you to everyone for all the advice and helping me make my decision.
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