I am in love with Cowboy Magic detangler. I have a palomino qh with a thick, full mane and tail. This stuff works like a charm, and smells amazing also.
NEVER try to get mud off wet. I swear to goodness that the stuff is God's bane on horse owners. Let it dry, and use your fingernails through a rag, and then a curry or a stiff brush. My white Arab is addicted to rolling in mud, so I've learned to just take a deep breath when I see mud. ð
Totally jealous of the whole feet picking-up "problem". That is NOT a problem, lol!!! ðððð