Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: New South Wales, Australia
I've only ever done self care. Its fairly uncommon to use full care in Australia, outside of the inner city.
Honestly, I've had few problems. I've never been anywhere that I was asked or required to pick. I've only done that in a private paddock. Places have worming, usually twice a year, often you worm your horse, write their name on the tube and chuck it in a box.
Being in self care requires you to be more flexible and adaptive. I wouldn't have it any other way.
I find the best way to have a good self care place is to ask all these questions before moving. You should be able to go on a tour, check the water, check the fences. Ask about worming policies, quarantine, rotation etc. See what documents they give you to sign. If all these things aren't right on the tour don't move.
I feel for you in your frustrations, I've had a couple of frustrations with people I board with (families with kids usually). However many of your issues seem to be ones you could have noticed and cleared up on your first tour. It really sucks being at a boarding place where everyone seems to have a vastly different idea of care, or ideas on training or just have no clue at all.
However you can't just turn up at a place and expect people to change. If they didn't pick, worm or fill water for the last however many months or years, they're not going to start now.