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post #11 of 21 Old 02-19-2019, 09:11 PM
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@kip First, she is lovely! I am so sorry this has happened, but wonder if more sight might come back. If she sees shadows, that is something that can be worked with.



My very beloved mare T lost most of her sight over 5 year period due to ERU. She adjusted so well, and navigated her pasture (trees, hills and buildings) and trails so you'd never know that it was only shadows she saw.


Finally, all in one day, she lost it all. Total darkness. My calm, confident mare became fearful and was injuring herself. She was rock steady under saddle , but I could feel the slight hesitation with each step. After 7 weeks of trying to help her adjust to darkness, I had to admit that I could not keep her safe, and it wasn't fair to her to live in fear.



My point is simply, if she sees shadows and can find her water and food, perhaps she can be in a smaller paddock area to navigate around safely. At 6 she has many years ahead, to be a brood mare, or to ride in the arena. Sounds like her temperament would help her take the changes in stride. Most horses adjust well to blindness, about 5% never do, and my T was in that category


Tough decision all around, but I think a solution can be found. You have so much on your plate, with husband injured and extra work load on your shoulders. I think you'll find what will work best for all, just need a bit of time to process and evaluate.



Please know you are in my thoughts and keep us posted.
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post #12 of 21 Old 02-19-2019, 09:44 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks, it's getting a little stressful. I have to pace myself.. the heart attack right before Christmas was no fun. The stent was no big deal but the blood thinner REALLY kicked my butt. I know we can't just keep marching along. The money just isn't there. We have to downsize to survive and we just can't maintain 9 horses. Having her own pasture would be great...but who's going to fence it? I really do need to find her a home. When I was leading her up the hill over rough ground..she never tripped. I think she sees more than shadows ..I just don't know what.
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post #13 of 21 Old 02-19-2019, 09:57 PM
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@kip That is encouraging! I hear what you're saying, how circumstances change. DH and I are fast approaching retirement age, and I am NOT ready to say goodbye to this lifestyle. If health allows, I will continue to work in order to afford my horses. What is hard is how everything has tripled in cost, in some cases even more, since I brought my horses home 20+ years ago. Like you stated, one emergency and funds will be wiped out at this stage in life.



You made me chuckle with the "getting old ain't for sissies". It was my grandmothers favorite saying! I now truly understand, all too well, what she meant!
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post #14 of 21 Old 02-19-2019, 10:09 PM Thread Starter
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Most of the time I don't FEEL old...I'm 71 but it's just a number. I've been handling stallions....my boys are the BEST. No matter how big they get...I'm still "da mama". LOL! and I never have a problem. Babies, breeding... no biggie...it's the mechanical stuff that would sink me without Hal. At 68 I decided to get a cow. A miniature Jersey....never milked a cow in my life..and it was a blast... all the home made dairy ...yum.... but then his stroke and it just got too much. I do still milk a goat... Don't know why I seem to always make work for myself. I've always done the training..but I'm a little leery at the moment..my big ones that need worked are sweet..but BIG. I rarely come off...but the problem now is this damn blood thinner. If something were to break inside..I'd be in a world of hurt. One day at a time. Melody is not unhappy..we have a fifty foot indoor arena I put her in every other day... but I still have to clean her stall, scrub her water bucket and take care of her in general. She's not a problem...but it's just ...more.
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post #15 of 21 Old 02-20-2019, 07:37 PM Thread Starter
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I was tiptoeing around her in the arena today... she was tracking me with her eyes....always ended up "looking" at me when I stopped. Who knows.
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post #16 of 21 Old 02-20-2019, 07:49 PM
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I wish I were able to take her, she sounds so sweet. I hope you find a really good home for her. It sounds like she has a fair amount of sight left, so that's not all bad.
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post #17 of 21 Old 03-27-2019, 07:51 PM Thread Starter
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A nice lady came to look at her today... Melody's sight has gotten better. She was all over me. Entwined her neck around mind, gave me horsey kisses, just mushed all over me. I couldn't take it.... she's staying.
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post #18 of 21 Old 03-27-2019, 08:55 PM
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Hello!



The little skewbald with the white face is Sparkle, who was born sighted but ended up with retinal detachment for some unknown reason. The hairy yak looking thing is her Irish Longhair friend Mary Lou, and the big dark donkey is Don Quixote. We adopted the whole group in 2012 when the Donkey Society got in touch with us about them. Their owner had health problems and needed to re-home her donkeys as a group, to a long-term home, because the two sighted donkeys help the vision-impaired one get around.



At first we kept them in "easy" terrain while they were new here, but now they've got the run of the place - about 150 acres, much of it bushland, about 30 acres of pasture, with hilly bits, trees and a farm dam. Sparkle does extremely well with her group. She also has some sort of internalised map of the place in her head by now, because the only thing she has difficulty with is finding the gateways in the electric fences - she'll stop near those and wait for either her donkeys or humans to bring her through them correctly. She sees very little, but does see light and dark and seems to see shapes.

But she's a happy donkey, and now in her early 20s - about midlife for a donkey!

Best wishes with Melody.

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post #19 of 21 Old 03-27-2019, 11:52 PM
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Please allow that things will never go back uphill again, at least not for more than a moment. You will feel much better if you can lessen your workload by finding homes for most of your horses.



This stage of life comes to everyone, eventually. either you do it as a driver, or it happens as a passenger. which will work best for all?
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post #20 of 21 Old 03-28-2019, 03:29 AM
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Growing old ain't for the faint hearted is it?

This is a real kick in the teeth for you.

I would have her on anti oxidants to help her immune system. Here in the U.K. there is a product designed for horses which I swear by. I have used it on many horses - it has stopped uveitis and restored sight, helped laminitics and bossted immune systems. I have also used it on dogs, cattle, sheep and humans.

I had an immune skin problem, litchen planus, doctors didn't know what it was so it got very bad. I started taking D-Tox and it was clearing within a week.

Powerful stuff.
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