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post #1 of 9 Old 04-14-2012, 08:16 PM Thread Starter
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My friend riding Honey - should I be jealous or thrilled?!

So my best friend surprised me a few weeks ago by wanting to get up on my mare Honey. She hasn't ridden before - and the two times I've gotten her up on Honey, she's been frightened. I never expected the complete 180 I've been dealing with since the other week. She's now IN LOVE with riding Honey and has a little lesson after my rides - which has been really fun to do.

These photos are from her third ride on Honey. I was just editing my photos and had to stop and stare. I'm currently working on acceptance of contact with Honey, getting her working under herself more, and making her supple and the rhythm consistent in the walk and trot. I've been riding since I was 11, but have limitations so I can't help but feel a little miffed by my friend and how good she's looking already.

I know I'm teaching her well, so I should be proud that my hard work is reflecting in my horse and that my friend looks this good into her riding career! Haha!! Go away green eyed monster

Thanks for taking a look. My friend has recently joined the forum, so I'm sure you'll find ohmysem around here soon ^_^

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post #2 of 9 Old 04-15-2012, 12:24 AM
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They look great, pretty mare!!

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post #3 of 9 Old 04-15-2012, 12:33 AM
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She has really good position for only her 3rd ride. You must be a good instructor!

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him and not only will he not scold you, but he will make a fool of himself too."

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Thanks HorseLovinLady!! I'm quite fond of them both hehe!
CLaPorte432; Thank you! I do help a few friends with their riding and used to teach the kiddies when I was taking lessons as a teen. I teach better than I ride, this is something I've come to learn over the years, but I'm pleasantly surprised myself!!

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She's on a leadline, with you in the middle. So mare is not thinking about getting out from under that saddle, or going left when you want to go right, or getting back to her cozy paddock. She is probably somewhat zoned in a comfortable way and has not thought to resist.
AND the girls has not expectation that resistance will happen and that she has "to do something about it". Makes mare a lot more relaxed. I have seen this a lot with beginner riders on horses.

Also, the girl may not have the twisted leg issue you have.

But, I do know the feeling of jealousy. I ride mostly with younger girls who make it look so easy. I always stick with my "I am a lot older than you " excuse. Then the other day my friend gets up on Zulu and kicks him straight away into a canter and rides him like she was born on him. She's about 4' 10" and 95 lbs.
AFter she gives him back to me I start into my "poor me, I didnt start riding until I was 42" song and dance. She goes " I started at 47". She's in her 60's now.
shoots down all my excuses.
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Haha thanks you sure know how to talk away that jealous monster! You are right, Honey is pretty chill about it all and listens because she knows I'm in the middle helping. Think it's going to be a different story when she's off the lead!

I hear you... I try not to use my limitations as an excuse, but I'm entitled to it sometimes!

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post #7 of 9 Old 04-15-2012, 02:01 AM
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I think they both look great!! Ill be honest though, of I had a friend hop on my horse and get what I was asking for, Id be jealous too, I dont think you can help it to be honest. Great work though!
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csimkunas6; Thank you! They are doing well.. I did get jealous but think I'm good to see how tomorrow's lesson goes without a green eyed monster, haha! Might just chuck her up on Seoul instead hahaha!

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post #9 of 9 Old 04-18-2012, 07:23 AM
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You should be thrilled!!!

The more you teach what you are trying to do.. the more YOU understand it. You'll get there, I promise!

When I began to let my best friend (who is a better rider than me) on my horse.. she only knew about jumping.. nothing about contact or being round or leg yields or seat bones (and noooo this is not a bashing on jumping. She didn't learn the foundation basics of riding :P) I started to teach her.. every little thing. About contact, about half halts, posture, leg yields.. and she had fun popping him over little jumps.

And oh my word Sky blossomed with her. And the way they cantered.. I wanted to knife myself! I was so jealous.. but then it hit me at once. She's riding my Sky. Sky's not killing her. Sky's so happy... I helped him get there. He feels safe!!! He's cantering!!! He's being ridden BY SOMEONE ELSE!!! I just got soooooo happy!!!!!!!!

Jealousy is an evil thing.. change your perspective and you'll be a lot happier :) You'll get there Rochelle.. it just takes some time :)

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