Thanks so much for all the feedback guys!
So this is unusual. As it turns out these exercises worked, but my knees don't even touch the saddle anymore when I put my heels down and calf on the horse? My friend at the barn said my lower leg was barely swinging at all.. but is my knee supposed to be off the saddle entirely?
Letting the horse "bump" me up to post felt very strange. I felt like I was barely getting off the saddle at all and it was a wonky feeling for sure. I'll work on it more.
I need to buy shorter leathers I think for my jumping saddle, they've stretched very unevenly. Something I've been working on myself for the last few months as ya'll know from a previous post.
I rode both horses (the bay from the video and my own) yesterday. I actually feel more secure than I thought in my jumping saddle. Haven't ridden in it in a few months. I can sit quite easily provided I let Hawk horse jog rather than extended trot. It was much harder to stand up in the stirrups like some others suggested in my jumping saddle. I felt like I was being pitched forward and couldn't really stand up straight, but was in more of a jumping position. I suppose a jumping saddle would be inclined to put me into a jumping position tho, right?
I did the same exersise in the dressage saddle on the bay horse from the video I posted. I was able to stand up straight quite easily. Both horses are downhill to some degree thanks to their QH lineage. The bay horse is rather sour overall, especially to strong leg contact, I'm trying to ride him "tactfully" since I don't really want to know what happens when he explodes. Its a work in progress. I definitely don't feel 100% safe on him, he's already pretty nasty tacking him up. Quiet enough to ride but I feel like theres a ticking time bomb underneath me and I don't want to pick a fight with him. Likes to be ridden off mostly voice and seat, gets ear pinny and "sticky feet" when I apply more leg than he likes.
The saddles I have are a Circuit "Full contact deluxe" close contact saddle, and a Bates Caprilli dressage saddle. Being name brands I'd expect them to be decently balanced, no? I'm not sure, I'm new to English riding. I've been a western rider all my life.