New rider, confused about recent experience at lesson.
Hello! My name is Chelsea and I'm brand new to formal training. I'm learning western style riding, taking lessons at a stable nearby. I'm almost 30, so I'm their oldest student 😂 but I'm finally in a position in life to pick up riding as a skill and own my own horse in the near future. So the lady, we'll call her Miss L, is not the greatest communicator, but we get along great otherwise. She paired me with this horse, Simon, who is dead broke and kid safe. He's a little stubborn, a lot of woah. My first lesson with him, he was relentlessly chewing on his bit and it really seemed to be bothering him. I brought this up twice and was brushed off both times. When we paused to open the gate and lead him in, he refused to move forward. For the first time, I had to apply forward pressure to his lead line. (He's using a snaffle bit). Miss L hollered to hold pressure as he pulled his head back, and then Simon went on his rear legs and yanked the line out of my hands. Despite my burning hands, I snagged the line back as Miss L was admonishing me for letting go. She instructed me to swat him, and he got into the ring with no further complaints. We had a great lesson! Miss L reminded me like 6 more times to never let go of the line, I'm in charge, etc.
The next lesson, I led him out with just his halter, and he did awesome while I brushed him and picked his hooves. Miss L switched the halter out for the bridle, and she led with her horse to the training ring. Again, we paused, and I kept talking to Simon to keep him focused on me. When the time came to proceed into the ring, Simon got stubborn again and refused to walk. Miss L hollered for pressure again, and I started off super gently, so Miss L's friend, (girl who helps out at the barn and rides the horses frequently), grabbed the line and pulled harder. Simon pulled his head back again, and again I heard "keep the pressure." He reared again and took off backward yanking me along, about 30 yards before the owner of the property yelled "LET HIM GO!" The owner, Mrs. C, started yelling at me about how I cannot pull hard when he has a bit in his mouth. Terrified she thought I was trying to hurt her horse, I raised my hands and explained that I was told never to let go LAST time that happened. This started a conversation between Mrs C and Miss L, which spiraled into an argument. I heard teeth mentioned, but I'm not sure if they were implying he just needed his teeth floated. Miss L had me lead Simon back to switch out his bit for a Tom Thumb bit. Meanwhile, she corrected me and told me to run with the horse, not fight him when he takes off backward. Simon was still chomping on the tom thumb and pushing it relentlessly, so they continued arguing about what to do for lessons. Miss L said, "he's your horse, you tell me what to do.," to which Mrs C responded, "I want that bit out of his mouth!" I threw my hands up again and told them to just cancel my lesson, as I was still trying to calm down anyway. I just didn't feel comfortable not knowing why Simon reacted that way, when by all accounts, he's as broke as they come.
I left without much feedback or explanation from anyone, and haven't heard from them in 2 days now. Part of me is worried I deeply offended someone, or maybe I came off too incompetent and they're not interested in training me anymore. I felt like an idiot when the next rider, a 6 year old, was leading her horse with no issues as I was leaving. It was suggested to me that his teeth needed to be floated, too, though. I just don't know if I should continue with these trainers or move on. Thank you for reading!