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post #1 of 6 Old 07-05-2010, 11:21 AM Thread Starter
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Going Back To Your Original Trainer

This is really a tough one for me. I started riding when I was about 12 and it was at a small private barn down the street from my house. The trainer/owner there was a very sweet woman and an outstanding trainer, she taught me things that have still stuck with me to this day and even went and helped me pick out my first horse (who turned out to be a charm). She had an eye for horses and just knew in general how to train. Long story short a few boarders there became disgruntled because horses were losing weight (including my boy) and the owners didn't want to be accountable for the fact they were not feeding the horses enough. We all offered to pay extra for stuff like hay and grain, and things just kind of fell apart from there and we moved barns and she was then not training me. It's really disappointing now because I loved her as a trainer and now watching her students do extremely well (placing 1-5 every horse trial they go to) and moving up the levels. I wish that we could somehow put the past behind us and make it water under the bridge. My horse lives at home now, is happy and healthy and now I'm 20 and I just wanted to see about giving it another shot. What should I do? Call her up? Email her? I'm a little nervous about it too and I don't want to make my future run-ins at shows with her awkward if I call her and she still harbors old feelings and is mad that I even called her.
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post #2 of 6 Old 07-05-2010, 09:37 PM
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That's a lot of time passed. I cannot imagine she'd be anything other than pleased to hear how much you valued her instruction. Usually, after some time away from a bad experience, people will sift out what good came out of it and let the bad stuff go, well at least people who do not have ulcers or thrive on being unhappy. I personally think that a phone call would be the appropriate way to go. Sure there might always be the food elephant in the room, but if you approach it strictly from a training standpoint, I don't see why you couldn't re-establish your relationship with her as an instructor. Heck, if she is still ****ed about what happened after 8 years, I'm not sure I'd care about weirdness at future shows.

You just have to see your distance...you don't have to like it.
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post #3 of 6 Old 07-05-2010, 11:45 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks. You always offer great insightful advice :)
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post #4 of 6 Old 07-07-2010, 06:34 PM Thread Starter
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EEEEEKKK! I'm so nervous to call, I have to work up my courage. I always work myself up about stuff that ends up not being a big deal anyhow :p
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post #5 of 6 Old 07-07-2010, 07:30 PM
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I didn't say it would be easy...hee hee. I think phone calls made after years of no communication are extremely hard things to do regardless of who it is. Only one way to find out how it going to go!

You just have to see your distance...you don't have to like it.
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post #6 of 6 Old 07-07-2010, 07:35 PM Thread Starter
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LOL! True...I think I'll do the deed tomorrow
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