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post #1 of 20 Old 01-06-2019, 04:26 PM Thread Starter
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Help convincing my parents to let me get a horse?

So, I've been riding for a long time, 2 years straight, plus riding here and there before. I train horses for other people and I have had tons of experience, including Mustang training, summer horse camp junior counselor, and assistant riding instructor. However, I still don't have my own horse because my parents keep saying no. Before, I lived in the city and there wasn't really any way for me to get a horse because my barn didn't do boarding and it was too expensive. However, now I live in the country with a large horse-zoned field behind my house, plus some equipment the previous owner left behind. There is no barn in my area at all and I have been just avoiding not going crazy by training someone's horses, although it was just a stroke of luck that I managed to find them at all. The person I have been training for is moving soon and she would be willing to sell one of her horses to me, along with some equipment. Does anyone have any tips for helping me convince my parents to buy that horse for me? Any help would be appreciated!
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You've been privileged to have some experiences many kids don't get.(mustang training and junior counselor) you've only been riding two years and while that seems like a long time and that that gives you endless experience, the reality is it doesn't. You are also a minor, under your parents care and seem entitled that to me would say appreciate what you have and work on your attitude and appreciation perhaps in time when you can also make a financial contribution it will be considered.

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post #3 of 20 Old 01-08-2019, 06:53 PM
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So, I've been riding for a long time, 2 years straight, plus riding here and there before. I train horses for other people and I have had tons of experience, including Mustang training, summer horse camp junior counselor, and assistant riding instructor. !
Sorry I find all this very unlikely in the space of two years...two years is no time at all to be riding, I worry about the level of ‘training’ you can provide at that stage.

No one can help you convince parents....I tried to convince mine for years, thought they were mean because I never got my own horse. Once I was a parent myself I realized that they had done the best they can, I had weekly lessons that was just fantastic. Thing is we don’t know their financial situation, so it could be way out of reach to have your own horse.

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what is your parents main argument for not allowing you to buy a horse?


I know what my parents arguement was, but I'm curious as to your situation.
Do you have a job? like a part time something? I'm not sure the laws in your place, as to how old you must be to have a job.




I appreciate your strong desire to have your own horse. I was just heartbroken that I could not have one, growing up. I can't offer advice without knowing more of the details of why they are saying no.
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post #5 of 20 Old 01-08-2019, 08:40 PM
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I agree, WHY are they saying no?

Also, keep in mind that a horse needs a companion and likely won't be happy in a big field by itself, there's a reason people end up with multiple horses.

Also keep in mind the very valid reasons to NOT get a horse, it's a privledge not a right and it comes with a LOT of responsibility. My first thought is as a minor what's your long term plan?

Agree with everyone elses post's too.
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How much research have you done on the costs associated with a horse?

What are your grades like?

Do you have a job?

Do your parents have a good income? Are they in a place where they can spend a lump sum on a horse and then maintain the monthly care fees?

Do you have transportation to the barn?

Do you have a place to keep a horse? Do you have a barn lined up?

If you can answer these questions, we can probably help you come up with some line of reasoning to submit your "case" to them.

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So, I've been riding for a long time, 2 years straight, plus riding here and there before. I train horses for other people and I have had tons of experience, including Mustang training, summer horse camp junior counselor, and assistant riding instructor. However, I still don't have my own horse because my parents keep saying no. Before, I lived in the city and there wasn't really any way for me to get a horse because my barn didn't do boarding and it was too expensive. However, now I live in the country with a large horse-zoned field behind my house, plus some equipment the previous owner left behind. There is no barn in my area at all and I have been just avoiding not going crazy by training someone's horses, although it was just a stroke of luck that I managed to find them at all. The person I have been training for is moving soon and she would be willing to sell one of her horses to me, along with some equipment. Does anyone have any tips for helping me convince my parents to buy that horse for me? Any help would be appreciated!
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Well, in my book I might have allowed you to lead a novice child around the arena but teach? Absolutely NO way!

You are a novice. You might well have had the opportunity to work with a mustang but that doesn't make you a trainer.

I agree with the others, it is up to your parents as to whether you get a horse or not. No one here will write to them pleading for you to get your own horse. What have you done to deserve one?

I don't know how old you are, obviously a minor, you need to prove you are trustworthy enough to earn one, great grades, helping out around the home, getting a job and saving hard.

Like Golden Horse my parents never bought me a horse, I had to wait until I was working full time and save for my own and pay all expenses myself.
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Haven't read responses so excuse when this is a replay of comment...


2 years of riding is a drop in the bucket to learning what a horse is, needs and how to care for it.
Even adding a few more years of occasional rides to that....still makes you a young teen and someone else is going to be affording this horse you can't live without...
So, what are you bringing to the table to offer your parents in assistance?
Your horse besides needing to be bought for you, needs tack, grooming supplies, a place to live, and place to ride, and oh yes continual food and care from you or family, a vet, a farrier and you still need lessons cause if you are done learning you are in a world of denial of your abilities....
That is a lot of $$$$$$ required on a monthly basis....every month.
Now, you also need time to be with the horse...means more time away from other things you are responsible for.
School grades, help at home, sports or after-school activities are all as important or more so you can also look toward a career goal of being financially independent of mom & dad....that means a job and making a living to afford a home of your own, spending money after paying bills and feeding yourself, paying for incidentals like utilities, cars & insurance and don't forget health insurance so when you get tossed off that horse you're training and break a bone you can go to the hospital for treatment...
See, it isn't "you" alone that the idea of horse ownership involves, but it involves every member of the family and everyone giving up and moving over so you get what you want...
Bring something to the table and make it worth their consideration as a "I can help with..." might get you someplace.
But the first thing I would do is sit down with mom & dad and talk to them...sit and talk....
Ask what their objections are and is there anything you can do, can offer to do that would allow the consideration of a horse for you soon that you so want....
You need to give before you receive...and a horse is a large commitment for endless giving of your parents money, their time and dedication to making sure that animal is provided for as them being the adults, they are owners and responsible in the eyes of law...not a child, a minor in age as you are.
Sorry, but that is where you need to start looking at this from...not I want...but what can I do to earn and continue to earn having such a luxury as a horse and will it alter my families financial future and others then must do without because of me...
now going to read those other responses...
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OP, your post title says you want to convince your parents to "let you" get a horse. Is this really accurate? Or are you wanting them to buy you a horse and pay for all of its board, feed, vet, and farriery bills, not to mention build a barn? Because those are two very different requests. On the one hand, you're paying for everything and they're just giving you permission. On the other hand, you're asking them to take on a big financial responsibility. Tens of thousands of dollars.

As others have said, two years is a blink of an eye. You have the rest of your life. I know it feels like you need a horse now, but you're asking a whole lot from your parents. So I would suggest you thank them profusely for all the opportunities they've already given you, get a part-time job in a barn, muck out stalls, whatever (like the others, I would not allow you to "train" my horse with so little experience), and start saving your money. But more importantly, keep getting experience and building your knowledge of horse care, riding, and training. You have the advantage of having started young. Keep working on that! And your parents may just surprise you one of these days.
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