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post #1 of 8 Old 10-23-2011, 06:13 PM Thread Starter
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Lost confidence

My son is 8 and started riding a year ago. Loves it. He switches between 2 pony's for riding(Horace and Barnaby) and both have thrown him and he's always got back up. He rides Horace particularly well and the instructors comment how natural they seem together. Cantering etc
He's moved recently from a one-on-one lesson to a class that have four children aged 11 plus and was going great until Horace bucked him off 3 weeks ago.
He was then riding Barnaby for the next couple of weeks. He was doing ok.
He got on Horace today and got totally spooked and couldn't canter and his riding was all out of sync. He got terribly upset but his instructor was fab and gave him loads of encouragement.
Just need some advice. I know nothing about riding but I know that he loves it with a passion but he's saying he's afraid to go riding next week.
I've thought about a one-on-one lesson this week, with his previous instructor, whom my son thinks is the best person ever, she makes him laugh and makes him work with Horace.
Your thoughts.
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post #2 of 8 Old 10-23-2011, 11:56 PM
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You're his mom, so what ever your heart instinct tells you is best, is most likely best. No one cares more for him than you, so in all honesty, you already know the answer. Whichever instructor makes riding build his self esteem and makes riding so fun that he will want to do it more and more, that's the one for your brave boy. His MIND is what is being trained, so whichever trainer has the best connection to it, she's your man.
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post #3 of 8 Old 10-24-2011, 04:05 AM
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A one on one lesson certainly couldn't hurt.

A horse that regularly throws his rider isn't really suitable for a young rider I think. Lesson horses should be very quiet and safe regardless of the ability or confidence of the rider, especially at this age. I would discuss your concerns with your son and your instructor and perhaps he can just ride Barnaby or another suitable horse.
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post #4 of 8 Old 10-25-2011, 05:00 PM Thread Starter
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Many thanks for your great replies. Have spoken to my son's previous favourite instructor and he's going for a one-on-one lesson this week on Horace, so fingers crossed. He's really looking forward to it. Will let you know how he gets on! Thank you again!
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post #5 of 8 Old 10-25-2011, 05:05 PM
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If you get bucked off you must get back on the horse or you will be afraid for the rest of your life. I think a one on one lesson with his instructor that he likes is a good idea. She can probably start back at the ground basics with him and work his confidence back up.

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post #6 of 8 Old 10-27-2011, 07:52 PM
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well i kinda can releate i got kicked by a horse an i thought to my self ya cant get scared. just got to tell your self that you cant let your horse think that it can keep doing that to you! you gotta show them whos boss. because if ya dont fix the problem the first time it will get worse.

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post #7 of 8 Old 10-27-2011, 07:58 PM
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I've had exactly the same thing happen recently, I fell a horse called flash and every time i went to ride i would kind of hoped i wasn't on him, but i was. They kept putting me on him until i got my confidence back on him. Right now, your son may be better at riding Barnaby but in the long run he won't gt his confidence back on Horace unless he rides him consistently until all the creases are ironed out(:
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post #8 of 8 Old 10-30-2011, 05:53 PM Thread Starter
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What a fantastic day today was! My son took a one-on-one with his favourite teacher during the week. She got him going again, built his confidence right up. Had him cantering with Horace within minutes.
He got on Barnaby this morning..he was full of confidence and rode him brilliantly! He's on Horace next week ...fingers crossed he'll be ok. Altho Horace tried to buck again during class. But the young girl riding him was able to control him. I just wonder if my son would've been able to do the same.
Thanks so much for all your lovely support and apologies I haven't replied sooner.
Kindest regards x
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