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post #11 of 12 Old 09-17-2019, 06:29 AM
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Originally Posted by redbadger View Post
Of course you're not acting "yourself"! You lost a beloved companion in February, and another one has been ill! That's a lot of grief & stress to work through...
You might be going through some depression, which is normal after a death. Sometimes parents don't understand that a person can grieve over the loss of a pet the same way they do a person. My first horse died when I was around your age. My mom thought I should be able to get over it in about a day or two, but for me everything looked gray and seemed bleak for more than three months after my horse died. That is a natural reaction and there is nothing unhealthy about it. Combine that with the stress of another horse being sick, and it can really add up. So go easy on yourself, try to find things that make you feel peaceful so you can process, and give yourself time to heal. It sounds like you love riding so feeling unmotivated right now might just be the lack of interest in things they normally enjoy that many people feel when depressed.

I'm middle aged now, but when my horse died about a year ago I was able to allow myself to be depressed and ended up processing through things faster. But if it had taken a while, I would be been OK with that since you never know how long it will take.
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post #12 of 12 Old 09-17-2019, 11:42 AM
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I work full-time with 2+hrs a day in commute and occasional evening/weekend work, cart my 14yr old to sports practice before & after school and attend evening games while making sure he gets enough sleep & healthy food, try to keep my house from becoming disgusting, make sure the yard gets mowed, and somehow also find time to eat and sleep and have clean laundry. That leaves zero motivation to go out in 100F while carrying my heavy western saddle from house to barn, to groom a sweaty horse, heft said heavy saddle up, put on my breathable-but-still-hot helmet, ride a heat-radiating horse under the unrelenting Texas sun, and then attempt to cool him back down without passing out from heat exhaustion myself. I haven't ridden since May, and probably won't bother until October.

Life goes through stages. My current stage is seeing my horses grazing in my pasture and calling that enough.

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~Lark, 20-something Arabian mare~
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