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post #11 of 16 Old 04-10-2015, 06:10 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you, everyone, for the advice. I will try my hardest to get going again. I really do miss riding my babies. So does my chihuahua! :)
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post #12 of 16 Old 04-10-2015, 06:48 PM Thread Starter
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I got him to let me groom him! He was nippy when I went to clean out his feet but holy crap! I ACTUALLY got to groom him! No halters or ANYTHING! I went down there to turn the water on to fill the troughs and I thought Hmm... Maybe I should try what the advice-givers said... I was scared to the maximum because he kept whinnying at me but... I did it! He stood perfectly still when I did ALL of it! I didn't give him any treats because I didn't have them at the time but I did give him an amazing rub down. Poor guy's shedding so bad that he's not sure whether the ground has grass or his hair! Now I need to work on getting him bathed... Is there any advice you can give me?
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post #13 of 16 Old 04-10-2015, 07:37 PM
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I got him to let me groom him! He was nippy when I went to clean out his feet but holy crap! I ACTUALLY got to groom him! No halters or ANYTHING! I went down there to turn the water on to fill the troughs and I thought Hmm... Maybe I should try what the advice-givers said... I was scared to the maximum because he kept whinnying at me but... I did it! He stood perfectly still when I did ALL of it! I didn't give him any treats because I didn't have them at the time but I did give him an amazing rub down. Poor guy's shedding so bad that he's not sure whether the ground has grass or his hair! Now I need to work on getting him bathed... Is there any advice you can give me?
How did you feel walking back to the house after the grooming session?
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post #14 of 16 Old 04-10-2015, 08:00 PM
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As others have said, do give yourself permission not to ride. Simply your presence means a lot to your horses, and grooming is great. Riding is not the end-all be-all of horse activities; there are lots of non-riding things you can do! If you feel up to it, even just getting a halter and leadshank and taking a horse for a walk where you would usually ride can be a great thing to do. I do it all the time with my mare! My body isn't always up to riding - my anxiety about life in general makes me so very tense. So on those days I take my girl for a walk, and we have a nice relaxing time looking at the scenery together. We both get to have some exercise and a successful day that way, where maybe riding would be too much.
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post #15 of 16 Old 04-11-2015, 08:25 AM
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Well done! But hey, don't start putting pressure on yourself to do more yet, so don't worry about bathing him. Focus instead on being able to minimise that fear you felt about grooming him. If he is shedding he will LOVE grooming, all those itch spots to scratch! I like to pluck the hair out of DDs pony :) but she is a welsh and a hairy little monster in winter!
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post #16 of 16 Old 04-11-2015, 07:21 PM
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I'll share a little technique I've used on and off for my whole life in dealing with anxiety. I had a terrible bout of post-partum depression years ago, and this helped me dig myself out of that dark hole.

When I start feeling negative emotions overtaking me, or if I start imagining things are getting bad (feeling anxious, imagining bad things are going to happen), I picture a white bubble of light surrounding me. You can call this white bubble whatever you want. For me it was the positive force of pure love. For others it might be God's love. Whatever works for you, it doesn't matter. All you need to believe is that there's a positive force out there in the universe that can repel all darkness.

In this bubble, I was safe. Bad thoughts, negative energy, darkness could not enter. It just bounced off. Whenver I felt negativity trying to intrude, I imagined strengthening the bubble, and I pictured that white light so bright, no darkness could break it apart. It helps me to remember that in a dark room, a single spark of light from a match can light the whole room and dispel that darkness, but in a room full of light, a speck of darkness is meaningless, negligible. So that means, in other words, that light is more powerful than darkness.

It takes concentration and practice, but if you work at it, you can bring that bubble up around you in a half-second and banish the bad thoughts and worries away.

I didn't learn this from any therapist or doctor or anything. It just seemed like the thing to do at the time and it's always worked for me, without fail. Might as well give it a shot if you are having trouble with negative thoughts or feelings and don't have access to doctors or medicine, or if those things aren't working for you.
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