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post #11 of 37 Old 11-17-2019, 01:02 PM Thread Starter
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Acadianartist----Thanks for that! Oh, and I always wear a helmet when I ride. I just took it off for a couple quick photos at the standstill. :) I am not currently taking lessons but have been considering it. I was always a Western Pleasure girl, and even showed in that discipline a tiny bit when I was younger. But English riding is a bit more tricky, I have limited experience with it, and I'm way out of practice in general. So I'm going to see if the boarding stable where Draumsyn is has an instructor--and if I can afford a couple lessons. Her owner is an excellent rider and while not an actual instructor I thought about asking her. The only problem is that D is so bonded to her--when Brianna is around, I cannot ride--because all Draumsyn does is constantly try to go where her owner is to be near her. It's ridiculous--and a little cute.
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post #12 of 37 Old 11-17-2019, 01:10 PM Thread Starter
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[QUOTE=knightrider;

Sighted riders, if you want an adventure, take your horse into an arena, put a black cloth bag over your head, and ride for 20 minutes.[/QUOTE]


Thanks for the vote of confidence Knightrider! Actually, to experience my level of vision, put a couple layers of cheesecloth over your eyes--with several more layers over the right eye for more complete white-out effect. You can still see where you are going pretty much, and some colors and even some detail close up--but you can't see more than 4 or 5 feet in front of you with any sort of detail and everything is a little blurry. My vision has been this way for at least 10 years now, so my brain as adjusted to my new "normal". I function very well all things considered. But yes, balance is an issue and I find myself looking down at my horses's neck and ears all the time instead of looking towards where we want to go--because it's all a big blur. But I can still look that direction. I have the same problem in yoga, but I can usually find something on the wall--a dark spot or light spot or something--that may be a clock or poster--to focus on. LOL
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post #13 of 37 Old 11-17-2019, 01:24 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you for all your wonderful replies! I am very lucky to have a sweet, safe horse. She does challenge me and test me and act up more than I'd like, but we're working on it. I've done some groundwork with her in the round pen and that has helped us bond a bit. And at the end of my last two rides in the indoor arena, I got off and let her go cause I wanted to her walk a bit to see if she was limping. I figured she wouldn't go far and I can see her overall outline to know if she's limping or not. Well, she just stayed glued to me like Velcro horse. Now it's a game--I get off and walk and run all over the arena and try to "get away" from her and she heels like a dog. Very endearing. She is not a beginner horse in the saddle, but she's not too advanced for me. I'm just used to riding only completely idiotproof guided trail horses (Dude ranch type) the last many years. Now I actually have to RIDE. :) I have a goal. My goal is to be able to ride at the walk and trot--bareback, by next Summer. Seems achievable. Especially since her "trot" is actually a tolt or a pace--and both are smoother than a trot. As far as cantering (in the saddle!) that may take longer. Or not. I'm not going to worry about it too much, but it is a goal eventually.



Jolien---I'm going to think about the stuff you said. Some very interesting ideas!
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post #14 of 37 Old 11-17-2019, 02:22 PM
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I cannot tell you how inspiring your posts are to me. Seriously.

And yes I have experience this (in recent history). I was almost too nervous to even ride but I forced my way through it and my nervousness was making PopTart a nervous wreck as well so we just rode in the round pen until I could breath again. I honestly do not know what gets into me sometimes. I am so glad that you rode through it and were able to talk yourself down from the fear monster.
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post #15 of 37 Old 11-17-2019, 04:46 PM Thread Starter
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Rhonda--glad to know I'm not alone! I had almost forgotten this, but one of the last times I really rode, on my own, on a green broke horse I was working with (the horse was the daughter of a horse I had a great relationship with for many years). She spooked--badly--went up and spun and I went off the side and broke my wrist. I was losing my vision at the time and everyone blamed it on that. That was over 15 years ago now, but I think I might have some latent PTSD from it. It's the first time since I was 6 or 7 years old that I've fallen off--and it involved an ambulance! And it involved my family and boyfriend at the time coming down on me hard for what they considered "reckless" behavior (riding horses when you have chronic inflammatory conditions and are going blind). Horses never seemed a scary activity to me. So, now I'm just finally getting ALL the part of my life back together.

Thank you so much for your kind words. I so often feel like a dolt, it's nice to hear I can actually inspire people!
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post #16 of 37 Old 11-17-2019, 04:47 PM Thread Starter
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Oh, by the way Rhonda--did I see in another post you are working on barrel racing? Or did I get that wrong? If so, that's very brave!
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Thank you for all your wonderful replies! I am very lucky to have a sweet, safe horse. She does challenge me and test me and act up more than I'd like, but we're working on it. I've done some groundwork with her in the round pen and that has helped us bond a bit. And at the end of my last two rides in the indoor arena, I got off and let her go cause I wanted to her walk a bit to see if she was limping. I figured she wouldn't go far and I can see her overall outline to know if she's limping or not. Well, she just stayed glued to me like Velcro horse. Now it's a game--I get off and walk and run all over the arena and try to "get away" from her and she heels like a dog. Very endearing. She is not a beginner horse in the saddle, but she's not too advanced for me. I'm just used to riding only completely idiotproof guided trail horses (Dude ranch type) the last many years. Now I actually have to RIDE. :) I have a goal. My goal is to be able to ride at the walk and trot--bareback, by next Summer. Seems achievable. Especially since her "trot" is actually a tolt or a pace--and both are smoother than a trot. As far as cantering (in the saddle!) that may take longer. Or not. I'm not going to worry about it too much, but it is a goal eventually.



Jolien---I'm going to think about the stuff you said. Some very interesting ideas!



Here's what I thought when I first read the bolded part:


If your balance is compromised, you have some health issues that mean a fall would be more impactful to you than to another person, but you have the heart to want to ride again, . . . then. . . ride SMART. To me, that means you do not ride bareback, at all. It's just too easy to come off, and if coming off could set you back in your dream, or re-stimulate the PTSD that is holding you back, then why increase your odds of that happening?


To me, I'd work on being a real rider, IN a saddle. Take your slowly building confidence and become the best rider you can in your saddle, working on becoming a 'pilot' to your horse, not just a passenger.
It's great to have a seat that's good enough to ride bareback, but bareback riding is not a requirement to becoming a better rider.



If I were younger, I'd totally do that, ride around bareback. Heck , I used to do it a fair amoungt. But, I want to ride for a long time, and I am more likely to fall if I ride bareback, so I'm going to consign that to my younger self's dreams.
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post #18 of 37 Old 11-18-2019, 03:33 PM
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I think that is great!! Way to go! Don't push yourself to canter though, do it when you are good & ready. There's no rush. Just because you used to be able to do it doesn't mean you necessarily HAVE to do it now. Take your time. Take baby steps. Little wins mean a LOT. Keep it up! Very inspiring!
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You did exactly what you were supposed to do. Push past the fears, and get the job done. You are still my hero! Carry on.

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post #20 of 37 Old 11-18-2019, 06:27 PM
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Oh, by the way Rhonda--did I see in another post you are working on barrel racing? Or did I get that wrong? If so, that's very brave!
I am going back to barrel racing! I did it my whole life from age 10 to about 30, but I've been off for a few years. I'm now 38, and I'm pursuing my passion again! I'm actually going to go over to a barrel race tomorrow and just do an exhibition for fun. :)

And yes, you could have some latent PTS from that. It always pops up when we are least aware!
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