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post #51 of 57 Old 02-27-2017, 09:45 AM
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Quick update!

She had a great lesson on Saturday on a different horse! Her instructor explained to me that sometimes it can be harder for children to assert dominance/control over the horse because oftentimes they just aren't raised with access to that part of their personality, or that they don't like being told what to do so they don't want to tell an animal what to do. I'm not sure what my little one's block might be since I'm not convinced either of those play a part in her... but I'm not her so I can't say for certain. But I can acknowledge that she does let the horse get away with more than she should sometimes. Sometimes I, too, let my horse make decisions that should be left to me. It's a work in progress. I'm just so glad she's wanting to keep going and learn.

I also did discuss with our instructor the possibility of doing back to back lessons, and she was quite receptive to the idea so we might be moving forward with that set up.
Glad she had a good lesson. :) It could have been a number of things, or they may just not have been a good match. Exactly, at least she wants to keep learning. That's all that matters. Happy to hear that.

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post #52 of 57 Old 02-27-2017, 08:56 PM
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Yeeesss I suppose but im fat and out of shape and I definitely don't bounce like I did when I was eight!
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post #53 of 57 Old 02-27-2017, 09:45 PM
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Quick update!

She had a great lesson on Saturday on a different horse! Her instructor explained to me that sometimes it can be harder for children to assert dominance/control over the horse because oftentimes they just aren't raised with access to that part of their personality, or that they don't like being told what to do so they don't want to tell an animal what to do. I'm not sure what my little one's block might be since I'm not convinced either of those play a part in her... but I'm not her so I can't say for certain. But I can acknowledge that she does let the horse get away with more than she should sometimes. Sometimes I, too, let my horse make decisions that should be left to me. It's a work in progress. I'm just so glad she's wanting to keep going and learn.

I also did discuss with our instructor the possibility of doing back to back lessons, and she was quite receptive to the idea so we might be moving forward with that set up.
That's such great news, thanks for sharing!

I think it's harder for young kids to be really firm with a horse. When my daughter was 7, we leased a pony for a bit. The thing was stubborn as, well, as a pony! One day, my daughter had a breakthrough. The pony was just refusing to move forward for her. I told her to get at that pony like she meant it. She was tentative at first, but got so darned annoyed at that pony that she kicked its sides hard enough to wake it up and get it moving! Not suggesting your daughter should do that of course, but at that moment, my little girl realized she could use enough force to make that pony realize she means business!

They just need time and experience to figure out how much force they need to use to get results without getting too much of a reaction. Not an easy thing to do, even for an adult!
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post #54 of 57 Old 02-28-2017, 04:10 AM
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Fear is tricky. Your daughter is lucky to have the trainer help her overcome and conquer her fears (as well as a great mom!) My first horse I ever rode proved to be more bronc than broke and it was many years before I regained the courage to even attempt riding again. I looked around for a really well reputed riding arena (they even specialized in helping people overcome their fears) and once I realized I could put my trust in my equine friend, I started to feel a lot better. My instructor has been phenomenal in helping me as well and knew exactly how to help me progress.
Now, I am far more confident on a horse and handle things a lot better if they act up and I've learned a lot. Getting bucked off or unloaded can be very scary, especially at a young age but trust your trainer. Things will improve! I know when I had an issue with one of the lesson horses that was a bit too much, my trainer just moved me to a slightly less difficult horse and now I ride the original one without issue!
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I'm glad she had a good lesson and thanks for the update! I'm glad your instructor is willing to work with you.
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post #56 of 57 Old 03-01-2017, 04:29 AM
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How frightening for you and her. glad the trainer found her another mount.

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post #57 of 57 Old 03-02-2017, 06:13 PM
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I imagine she is shaken up and scared. That is normal just about any time you come off a horse. It is good she got back on for her confidence. The trained probably should have gotten on and tuned the pony up too -but it is a lot easier to get back on right away if you can than it is to wait.

You certainly cant force her to ride, but maybe the barn has a different horse she could use instead? Sometimes that makes a big difference in the willingness to get back on.

My kids haven't started riding yet -but I know that even being a rider who starts young horses ...I would have a hard time watching my children get thrown without mother bear taking over. Unfortunately that is also part of learning to ride. Best of luck to you guys and I hope that if you girl does love horses that she continues with it.
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