. you must be having a tuff time sleeping tonight. You are up really late.
I'm 12 hours ahead of forum time; this means my last post here yesterday was made at 8.21 PM our time. (We're in Western Australia. Sydney time would have been 10.21 but that's Sydney!)
I did have a tough time of it for a few weeks with sleep because of coming off SSRIs (for PTSD) late last month - rebound insomnia - but used the first shocking week to do some serious writing. I've been back to 7-8 hours sleep straight through again this week, which is good. Brain re-set is working. I stopped having nightmares without them so I'm good to go now.
, your cats look very naughty!
That pointy, clever sort of face is very like the one on a Burmese we had once called Monique. She was a small cat with that sort of naughty face and boatloads of ideas.
, instant karma seems to have been the order of the day. I'm not sorry at all when people like that drop dead, I must say - those scruples have been removed from me with age and experience. People like that are a perpetual thorn in other people's sides, and either sadistic or callous to boot,
Interesting that antibiotics could do that - the staining with tetracyclines during tooth development is something many people know about, but that kind of major developmental disruption your father had is something I'd not come across - how unfortunate!
Being a nerd, I immediately found myself a paper to read. Didn't take long to find one... https://www.omicsonline.org/extensiv...7.php?aid=2354
With that rude person at your barn, what I've found is when you meet people like that, the most effective thing is to pull them up for bad behaviour the very first time they try it on you. One way I do it is to say, unemotionally but firmly and clearly, "OK, now rewind what you've just said, and try saying that politely
!" - and it's important to hold eye contact with that person while you say this, so they know you mean business. If it's gone on a while, you could say, upon another example of the same type of behaviour, "I do not appreciate your disrespectful tone of voice - address me politely, thank you." (Again, unemotional and firm, and you've got to look at the person and mean it. I put on my "talking to a 15-year-old naughty boy" face..) And if she doesn't - no manners, no service - simply state that you will respond to no requests that aren't made in a polite tone, and that you do not respond to orders or yelling full stop, and say whatever else you wish to convey, or say nothing more, as feels right to you.
's advice here.
Humour is always excellent - then you can be the one laughing, and it may also defuse the situation (or not, but who cares). I think the best responses involve either humour, or emotional neutrality and firmness - don't let people get to you, or at least don't let them see
they are getting to you, just do politeness broken records etc. And try to avoid getting in the same gutter, but on rare
occasions it can be the right thing to let rip - this involves using your antennae and judgement of the situation.
I had someone yelling at me in public a while back because she thought my dog shouldn't be off her leash (which she was wrong about, it was an animal exercise area and my dog wasn't causing any issues). And this old lady was just yelling
at me! And I went, with projected voice to cut through her screeching, "Excuuuuuuse me! You may address me in a polite tone, thank you very much! ...this is an animal exercise area. If you aren't familiar with its rules, feel free to ring the ranger!" And she wouldn't stop screeching, and I walked away, but with some choice words. I didn't swear - I can't remember precisely what I said, but it was related to her sounding like an ambulance siren when she was yelling, I think... that really wasn't a nice situation, and it wasn't my best ever response to that sort of problem, but I'm sure it wouldn't have been amiss to cool her down with a bucket of water, she was so loud and so rude... and had someone else done that, I have to admit I would have applauded...
Talking to your trainer about the problem with her manners and lack of respect towards you might also be a good strategy. He could have a little chat with her... do you think he would?