Thanks for continuing the conversation guys. By no means am I saying to be harsh/rough/yell/etc, especially over the net - there isn't the room for interpretation in typed words. In real life where one can read body language and truly know their trainer/coach/mentor, there's much more room for that.
Over my lifetime I have had some TOUGH coaches. Many that would make a lot of people feel like walking (or riding) away but having stuck through it with those coaches and trainers, it made me a much tougher, stick to it horse(wo)man. I don't get intimidated and I don't give up, I thank those who were tough on me for that. These weren't just local, lower level trainers either for those who would say treating students like that will cut a trainer's career short, earn them a bad rep, etc....I'm talking hall of fame trainers. Many long gone and what I wouldn't give to be able to ride with them again as an adult and I'd gladly let them yell, stomp, cuss and pick me apart until their heart's content.
That style of course, isn't for everyone nor should it be. Nor should it be a trainer/coaches style for every rider. We need to adapt to each individual and each horse. I am pretty laid back and very positive reinforcement with my beginners & littlest riders UNTIL they are more advanced and wanting to make bigger strides towards improvement and where they want to go as far as showing goes. I am not going to nitpick equitation/horsemanship with a rider who has a goal of being a safe, secure trail rider but when it's someone who wants to compete more seriously or has bigger goals to get to, I'm much, much tougher. It works for me and for my students. I have lost only a few students over the years and they were all asked to leave. Most that ride with me are with me for a long time (I'm now teaching the kids of the kids I've taught) so I must not be too mean
They do call me the showmanship nazi though....
My trainer rarely critisizes. She'll mostly let you continue doing things the way you do them if you like. But, She models how she thinks things get done the best, and if you want what she has, you ask how to do what she does. Pretty simple.
I would love to watch a lesson. I can't work that way. I feel that I am being paid to find the flaws and fix them. If I don't tell someone what that flaw is especially when they don't recognize the flaw on their own to ask about, how do we make a game plan to fix it? I could let my students watch me ride all day and they will get less from that than me talking, picking apart, discussing & demonstrating (I often ride and coach at the same time so I can show not just talk). The differences in riding between myself and one of my beginner students especially is so vast and they aren't advanced enough to be able to pick up on the small nuances, cues & adjustments I make - if I am doing things right most of that stuff is virtually invisible. My life's goal has been to be the quietest handed, steady eddie, you won't see that correction because my horse is so tuned in rider. A beginner or early in their learning rider wouldn't pick up on them.
Good stuff guys!!!