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post #21 of 28 Old 03-22-2013, 03:21 PM
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My parents are both gone and what I would not give to hear their voices again.
Your self esteem does not depend on your mothers approval. It comes from within. When someone you love makes a negative statement either change the subject or end the conversation. No need to defend yourself.
Yes there are parents that will should be avoided if they cannot hold their tongues when speaking to the grandchildren. Shalom
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My parents are both gone and what I would not give to hear their voices again.
Your self esteem does not depend on your mothers approval. It comes from within. When someone you love makes a negative statement either change the subject or end the conversation. No need to defend yourself.
Yes there are parents that will should be avoided if they cannot hold their tongues when speaking to the grandchildren. Shalom
Ohh I agree with you, and I would give anything to be able to talk to my dad once more, and I did just bit my tongue and ignore her and quickly told her that a storm was rolling in and that I didn't feel that I needed to be on the phone during a strom and ended the conversation. Like I said it is just a rant and I was curious to see if other people experience these same type of issues. I realize that we will always be our parents "babies", but sometimes you have to just let the bird find it's wings.
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post #23 of 28 Old 03-22-2013, 04:41 PM
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I am blessed to have a fabulous mother. My biological father is a jerk that I pretty much avoid his phone calls - he never raised me or has never been around so he really is just a fly in the old ointment every now and then.

Hubby's parents could be a big giant PITA at certain times. MIL is gone now and FIL is in a home. They have drove him insane at times as they did me.

Parents really don't change too much generally. My step father did a 180 and we were all very grateful for that but my mom remains pretty dang wonderful. She is thrilled for me that I have horses again. She couldn't care less about them but she is more than happy to hear about my adventures and to occasionally go out and see them.

Let what she says roll off your back and don't let it steal your joy. We will all get older one day so remember what you didn't like about phone calls with good old mom and try not to revisit that with your kids!! None of my kids are interested in horse and they have the same attitude as your mom about my horses!!! LOL

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post #24 of 28 Old 03-23-2013, 02:39 AM
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My mom is super supportive! She's not really a horse person, but she knows how much they mean to me!

My Dad does like to make comments and puts me down. I'm use to it, and for the most part ignore it, if it gets to much I end the conversation. A lot of it is hypacritical, he'll make comments about me bringing my dogs some place, you rarely see him without his, silly things like that. I typically let that roll off my back, but he does enjoy bad mouthing the people in our lives, mostly my mom, bil, and his mom! When he starts that I suddenly have to get off the phone, or have somewhere else I need to be.
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post #25 of 28 Old 03-23-2013, 11:04 AM
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I was 50 years old the last time that Onery Little "Five Foot Nuthin" woman put me in my place

I had already bought a house, secured a job and was two weeks away from moving to California. I was trying to give my just-had-a-heart-attack-mother what I considered sage advice.

Over the phone, I heard the silence I had come to dread over the years and just sat demurely on my end of the phone, waiting for "it".

Sure enough, lips pursed (she always did that when she was about to give me h*ll), voice lowered in deadly monotone, I heard "LETTTTSSSS just NOTTT forget WHOOOOO the mother is, here".

ME: Yes ma'am, I was just trying to help.

MOM: "Well I am FINNNNNE. YOU, Young Lady have a job to go to; just be sure to eat your peas so you don't get sick".

Mom made it two more years and we talked daily on the phone with me never saying another word about what she ought or ought not be doing.

Mom was in her mid 70's, we knew with the heart attack and high blood pressure, time was short for her tiny little self, so she told me gossip and we talke about life in general and how "very well behaved" I was growing up<---not that well behaved

That's how I ended up with a horse to care for at age 12 --- I was a handful - not jail time handful, just always into something and mom was hoping my own horse would keep me even more occupied than the time I spent at granddad's with his horses. I haven't been without a horse since then. It took me a whole bunch of years to figure that out. Our parents seem to never know anything, until we become parents ourselves - lol lol lol

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I'm getting to that time in life where I'm the annoying mom. Reading your post, OP, I noticed your mum asked if you had received your birthday card and check. I can say, as an annoying mum, that I always send cards and gifts with baited breath because I can't wait for the call I hope hope hope will come! Then, no call. So, I try to wait it out. No call. So I finally call and by then, I'm hurt and feeling like I got hay in my underwear, and I probably sound a lot like your mum.

I've been trying not to be this way. I just want to hear their voices and be missed a little. My latest tactic is to play hard to get. Hmm. Still waiting. I must be a real bitch of a mom
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post #27 of 28 Old 03-23-2013, 11:56 AM
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Big deal. There will come a time when you will wish you could hear her snippy voice...
Yes! My dad passed away years ago and my mom has dementia, so it would be nice to have them back the way they were......the good and the bad!
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I'm getting to that time in life where I'm the annoying mom. Reading your post, OP, I noticed your mum asked if you had received your birthday card and check. I can say, as an annoying mum, that I always send cards and gifts with baited breath because I can't wait for the call I hope hope hope will come! Then, no call. So, I try to wait it out. No call. So I finally call and by then, I'm hurt and feeling like I got hay in my underwear, and I probably sound a lot like your mum.

I've been trying not to be this way. I just want to hear their voices and be missed a little. My latest tactic is to play hard to get. Hmm. Still waiting. I must be a real bitch of a mom
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I wanted to like your post, but couldn't with you saying that must be a b###h mom, even though it might have been tongue and cheek.
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