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post #1 of 7 Old 03-29-2010, 11:41 AM Thread Starter
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Alright so while I was unemployed for a whole two weeks, I put Ice up for sale. I kept the ads up because, while I've had him up for lease before, he's never gotten much interest. On Friday I got an email from a girl who sounds less than 16. I say 16 because at that point, you should be able to conduct yourself through email and sound like an adult. So there's this girl who wants to buy Ice. Since I'm no longer in a position where I need to sell him, I'm a little apprehensive to respond. I'll give you the whole set of our correspondence here. Her emails are in italics, mine are in bold.

Hi my name is Haley and I am interested in your horse. I have always wanted to have a horse and so I've been saving up to buy one. You said the price was negotiatable, well I have $400 that I have saved in order to get a horse. If you like my offer please message me back at (email address)

The first thing that I didn't like about this email is of course, she sounded young. Her email address confirmed that. I also didn't like the fact that even though I'm only offering him for 500 dollars, I do actually think he's worth it now. He can take a saddle, he has some voice cues and other little things....I paid more for him than I should have when I bought him, but 500 dollars for him would be decent. I said I'd be willing to drop the price for "qualified" buyers. Right now this is not her. I tried to be very courteous with my return email, but get down to whether or not I should even waste my time with her. Here's what I said

Hi Haley! Thanks for responding. What kind of experience do you have with horses, and how long have you been riding? Ice is NOT for a beginner rider, he has very limited experience despite his age and still needs a lot of retraining done. I am willing to negotiate price, but only for very interested and qualified people. I'd love to hear back from you though.

My sister has all the experience because she works with 16 horses and has been teaching me everything she knows about riding and caring for a horse. We would love to give a horse a good and forever home with us.

I read that email, and felt something fishy. Is it just me? Of course I have no doubt that she might have a sister whos knowledgable with horses, but I don't think I would be willing to send Ice to a place where the big sister is training him and the little sister can hop on when ever she wants. I told her to have her sister call me, preferably while this Haley girl was there so I can talk to them both and figure out wtf is going on. Does that sound like a good plan? What would you guys do, if anything?

Sorry for the novel!
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post #2 of 7 Old 03-29-2010, 11:51 AM
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Definitely a teen or tween.

Instead of having her sister call you, I'd tell her to have her parents call. She could easily recruit a friend to pose as her sister.

When it comes down to selling/leasing you can't legally enter into a contract with a minor anyway, so her parents would need to be involved for this to go any farther.

My guess is she's 'wish buying', and really isn't in the market for a horse.

I did plenty of 'wish buying' as a youngster but the interwebz wasn't around yet, so I couldn't aggravate a real seller by sending, "I loff your horsie and want to buy him!" messages.
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If she does call, I'll have a looooong list of questions to ask this "sister". But you're right, while I'm at it, I'll ask the parents too. I do have a feeling however this girl will call me by herself and just try to convince me to load him on a trailer.
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Agh! I hate people like that who give teenagers a bad name. Honestly, I'd never consider sending an email like that, but I know plenty of people who would because they just don't know better. I'm all for being professional, especially in professional situations, and that makes me sad.

I personally wouldn't even consider her, but that's just me. I think initial opinions of people are incredibly important, and the way somebody portrays themselves in an email says a lot about their character, but that's just me.
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post #5 of 7 Old 03-29-2010, 10:53 PM
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Ice is very handsome, and congrats on all his winnings! I rode an OTTB for quite a while — he was a great horse. Don't know if he ever won anything: his owner didn't know much about his history.

Okay, back on topic:
Needless to say, I wouldn't sell a horse to this girl. She doesn't sound ready to take on the responsibility of owning a horse, much less an OTTB who needs retraining. If you're curious and want to see what she does, I guess you can keep responding to her. But if you're not curious, I'd cut communication.

I thought you said you were no longer selling Ice?...
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I thought you said you were no longer selling Ice?...

Exactly. I would meet with the girl and the whole family and see how it goes. It sounds like to me that Ice is in need of a forever home.
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I'm not actively looking to sell him, nor do I have a need--meaning that if I don't think they're the right fit, I won't feel so bad (and neither will my bank account) if I choose to tell them to get lost. I have a feeling it won't get to the point of actually meeting this girl anyway, but I do want to see how she conducts herself further.

I've conceded to myself that Ice might not be the horse for me--I absolutely adore him even if his personality isn't a shining example of what a horse should be, and we also do have a lot of "baggage" and history. Sometimes this is a good thing, I know what his personality is, but it can also be very trying (like right now--I'm back to square -5 with him doing nothing but simply waiting for him to acknowledge my very existence, where as our trainer gets him to make "little boy" pretty faces for her). I want very badly to be his forever home, but if it isn't meant to be, then it isn't meant to be.

In short, if I find the absolutely perfect person for him, I may be willing to let him go. But I won't ever be bent over backwards trying to support him.
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