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post #31 of 51 Old 09-02-2010, 05:08 PM Thread Starter
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I would LOVE to be able to do that, Herdound =)

Unfortunately, I can't afford to pay 225 to leave, and then another 215 to the new ranch. I really wish I could. I think that thirty day notices are really ridiculous. I'm actually still angry about the whole thing, but trying my hardest to suck it up and get it over with and try to enjoy the next thirty days. Trying to make the best of it and think about how great it will be to have an ACTUAL pipe corral with ACTUAL waterer and an ACTUAL feeder, with ACTUAL MATS so when it rains my horse will have an ACTUALL DRY SPOT TO STAND. Haha I'm really happy about that =D and the owner told me that she had a man with two horses who is looking for someone to help him work them, and he would pay me well. She said she would refer me to him. The entire atmosphere there is different, and she doesn't treat everyone like a liability. She was super cool, relaxed, and everyone there is in their thirties or older... I think I will get along with everyone just fine. The owner is having a BBQ soon, and she's invited me to come to get to know everyone. I'm super excited.

So, I'm going to keep my chin up, smile, be happy, take care of Cricket, and come October first, I'm loading my mare up and leaving a big F*CK YOU on BO's door. Hahahahahahaahahahahaha not really, but I'm pretty darn tempted

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post #32 of 51 Old 09-02-2010, 05:35 PM
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Save those texts! I would haul your girl out of there, stop payment on her check and when she tries to sue you in small claims, use the texts to show breech of contract or at the least, harassment. Seriously. From what you have posted I would NOT put it past that woman to do something stupid in these 30 days!

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post #33 of 51 Old 09-02-2010, 06:15 PM Thread Starter
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I would NOT put it past that woman to do something stupid in these 30 days!
Thats exactly what I was thinking, Amarea.

My dad made it VERY clear that we're putting in our 30 days notice, so she can't say we never told her. All of her text messages were saved onto my phone. I'm not allowed to be at the ranch alone during the 30 days (my dads rule). If I want to go to the barn, my brother, dad, trainer, mother, whatever, will accompany me. I'm not allowed to trail ride alone either. In the next thirty days if I want to go out on trail I will go out with my best friend Lexi (who isn't afraid to kick *** for me) or her boyfriend Ryan, (who is equally fearless to kick *** for me...) I will have no contact with her, at all, and it was made very clear that in the next month if she has a problem she will call my dad first, and if he grants her permission, she will then call me. She will not touch my horse. She will not seek me out for harrasment, conversation, nothing. And if the agreement is breeched in the thirty days, my dad will cancle her payment and take Cricket and me away from the sittuation as soon as humanly possible.

I saw her today, and she pretty much ignored me. She didn't look at me, talk to me, didn't ask me where her board payment was, absolutely nothing. She saw me, looked away, and completely ignored me.

I REALLY hope we won't have any more problems with her in the next thirty days, and I'm really crossing my fingers... But shown before by her personality and the way she treats me, anything is possible. We're taking all the precautions to make the next days as friendly as possible. The only thing I'm worried about her her spreading stuff around the ranch about me, or to other ranches. But, if I have nothing to say bad about her, I don't see how she would about me. But as said before, unfortunately anything is possible.

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post #34 of 51 Old 09-02-2010, 06:34 PM
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Did you give your notice in writing?

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post #35 of 51 Old 09-02-2010, 06:35 PM
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I am very sorry that you have to deal with this, I am glad that you found a new place to take your horse that def. seems drama free.
I just wanted to add that I agree if you are stressing out and upset about the current barn you will not be happy and it will be harder to enjoy your horse. Your horse will pick up on this and it will make things in her training all the more frustrating. Do the best that you can, with your knowledge and your trainers knowledge. I have found that people will talk or gossip no matter what you do in just about everything. My husband says that horse people are down right crazy!!! lol Good Luck and keep us posted : )

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post #36 of 51 Old 09-02-2010, 09:21 PM Thread Starter
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Haha, I agree with your husband, RadHenry =) Most of us are pretty crazy.

And Amarea, No we didn't put it in writing... I wasn't aware that we should. My dad just told her that we'd like to let her know we're leaving october first then, so to consider this our thirty day notice.

I think, in the case that she DOESN'T honor our contract, and come october first when we pack up and leave and she tries to say something about it, THEN I will load Cricket up anyways, get my crap, and leave an ACTUAL "eff you" on her door. Or maybe just punch her in the face... I'm not sure if she's that fearless, though.

Do you think I should write a letter or something? I already wrote a letter of appology, however it was more of a rant than an actuall appology and not suitable to actually give to her.... But do you think that she won't honor our contract unless we put it in writing?

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post #37 of 51 Old 09-02-2010, 09:42 PM
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yes yes yes, put that you are leaving in writing that details not only the day you plan to leave but also with a date notice was given and signature , and keep a copy!!!!!! This has bit me on the butt many times, not just with stables but apartments. If you don't put it in writing, then there is no proof that you gave notice. What can happen is this...she can say you never gave proof and charge you again for another 30 days. This is pretty much how it is in any state. If you refuse and take the horse, she can take you to small claims where it will be a matter of your word versus hers and you will need proof that you did what you were supposed to do....that handy dandy copy of your 30 day notice.

If you are really worried, you may want to spend the 2 bucks or so to have it notarized...actually your dad have it notarized, I think you have to be 18 for it to be a true notarized legal document.

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post #38 of 51 Old 09-02-2010, 10:34 PM
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OMG YES! Get it in writing! That may be the loophole where she plans on catching you and because you have a SIGNED contract but NO signed written notification you could be SOOOO SOL if she wanted to take you to court. Your case is only as good as your evidence and if you didn't give notice in writing, I GUARANTEE she will win. When you write your statement (or your dad does) make SURE that he writes that he is sending written confirmation of their discussion that took place on 9/1/10. Make sure THAT date is in there or she could still legitimately get you for prorated board. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE get her written notification ASAP!

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post #39 of 51 Old 09-02-2010, 11:15 PM Thread Starter
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Well isn't that just lovely. Looks like I'm typing out a 30 day notice and signing that sucker. Do I need to have her sign it? Or do I just sign it?

And if I make a copy of it, how do I get proof that I actually gave it to her, and that she actually has it? Have someone come with me when I give it to her?

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post #40 of 51 Old 09-02-2010, 11:20 PM
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You can't sign it. You are a minor and cannot enter a legally binding contract/agreement. Your dad has to sign it. And yes, I would ask her to sign it too. See if she'd meet you at a bank or something or if you know someone who is a notary, take them with you. A notarized document stands up better than one that's not. Take a witness or 2 if you don't get it notarized. If you have witnesses watch her sign, you will have back up is she says she didn't.

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