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post #21 of 36 Old 09-29-2009, 04:02 PM
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If you are not afraid of losing her as a friend tell her what you really think. Be honest.
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post #22 of 36 Old 09-29-2009, 08:00 PM Thread Starter
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Well she was never a friend. I don't befriend people like that. she's an acquaintance I've tried to stay far from. I don't even remember why she got my number? I've told her straight what I think and she just seems to shrug it off. I put a lock on Caleighs door and all the trainers and BO know the code and what this girl looks like. They also have full permission to forcefully remove her from the property (that's what the local cop I talked to said). So hopefully this will be over with soon. I'm going back to work starting tomorrow and I don't want to be 45 minutes away and get a call "uh yeah so Caleigh's missing". ya know?! Everyone knows my hours, they have the clubs number, the club owner/managers number and mine.
I hate stress like this.
On one hand I feel bad she was never taught anything better than what her mom has given her but on the other hand I'm not going to stand in the line of fire anymore and it needs to stop now.

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post #23 of 36 Old 09-29-2009, 08:46 PM
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Putting a lock on your horse's stall door is not a good idea. If there is a fire or other emergency, people will need to open the stall door quickly without worrying about a combination. I would talk to your barn manager or the property owner about what they can do, such as forbidding her from the barn. You can also post a very clear message regarding the issue on your stall door, showing a picture of her and saying that she is not allowed to handle this horse and if you see her with this horse than contact so and so immediately (with barn manager permission).

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True. I thought of that. But as someone else pointed out, if she were to somehow gain access when nobody is there...then what? a note isn't going to do much if she's the only one there. I can't think of any other options. We have those big bolt cutter things. If you can suggest something. I'm going to the most extreme scenarios of course, but I don't want it to escalate into something reallllllly bad.
I've already told her she's not welcome at the barn anymore.

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So I called the barn owner and had her take the lock off the door. She said there will be cameras installed by the end of this week anyway for security purposes for everybody and everything should be covered. I didn't know there were going to be cameras, I never thought of a barn with security cameras but that's a good idea. She said there's going to be live feed hooked to the office with an entry alarm for after hours. I guess it's been her families plan for a while but couldn't find a good weather proof system until just recently.
that makes me feel a lot better.
She said next is a code gate for the entrance but they need to do some landscaping in order to place it. That's what I love about this barn. The whole family lives there, along with family friends who help and there is pretty much 24 hour care if needed. AND the people actually give a crap about all the horses instead of just their own! At other barns I checked out and I've ridden at, boarders only cared about their horses and nobody else existed...if someone needed help...too bad. not here!

I still hate how a compliment at a show and the after schooling bbq 7 years ago lead to this! Never woulda thought that.

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post #26 of 36 Old 09-30-2009, 12:54 AM
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wow. i'm going to have to agree with iridehorses on this one though. she sounds like a kid with horrible parenting, no boundaries, who deep down is probably miserable and terribly lonely. is it possible she doesn't have any real friends or people who care about her? my heart goes out to her. would i let her ride my horse? no. maybe you're going to have to pick up where her mother has failed- be the one who has to teach her some boundaries. no means no. and remember, you don't have to answer her texts either. :)
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maybe you're going to have to pick up where her mother has failed- be the one who has to teach her some boundaries. no means no.
That's putting a big (and inappropriate) burden on someone who doesn't even want to deal with her....why should she have to deal with this girls lack of boundries and lack of proper parenting? Not to mention showing her any kind of attention will just egg her on. I agree in general to distance yourself from her, and if she continues to come around, it might have to come to just being blunt and just shy of mean for her to get the message loud and clear.
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post #28 of 36 Old 09-30-2009, 02:34 AM Thread Starter
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I'm not answering her texts or anything anymore. If I see her what should I say? I've already said she's never riding no way no how? The trainer and barn owner has said she's not welcome here/there. I'm not sure what else to say? Suggestions?
Her showing up is what really worried me. I just want to rewind and skip the schooling show. I wasn't going to go until my mom told me I was signed up to ride T-hunder (silly way to spell it) and he was my favorite horse at that barn.

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post #29 of 36 Old 09-30-2009, 02:42 AM
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Well if you see her, make a point not to make eye contact etc, and then if she still comes over and tries to make a conversation about Caliegh, ask her why she thinks shes so entitled to something that's not hers. Most likely it will shut her up, and if she says something about you being friends, simply respond that "a friend would understand why i don't want just anyone riding her" and walk away.
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post #30 of 36 Old 09-30-2009, 02:44 AM
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I totally understand not letting others ride your horse! I am very possesive of Phoenix and can proudly say the only other person to have ever sat on her is my husband ( and that was because I was away working and he had no other way of doing the job that needed doing). Under normal circumstances not even hubby gets to ride my baby. The chick sounds very strange, does she think that she is going to show you how your horse 'should' be ridden or something. She sounds arrogant actually.
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