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post #61 of 65 Old 10-31-2013, 11:52 PM
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Originally Posted by GreySorrel View Post
What she is doing is abusive....
Yeah. Every single person posting here is well aware of that. Including OP. It's been brought up, mentioned, acknowledged many times. That's why she's here. She's getting advice on how to fix her behavior because she's well aware it's not okay.

Good luck, OP. I wish you the best, and don't stop moving forward. I wish you would stick around, I'd love to hear your progress, but if you don't, know that lots of us support you. Not in your hard handedness but in you realizing it's a problem and seeking help. I would also advise outside help - a therapist, or even just a trusted wise friend. Keep your anger back at home when you go to the barn, and if you get frustrated just get off.

Good luck.
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post #62 of 65 Old 11-01-2013, 12:35 AM
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Best of luck. I still recommend you talk to someone about what's going on even if it's just a close friend
Two truths have gotten me through some dark times
1. The knowledge that things always change -As Tiny said -this shall pass. No matter what today is like tomorrow is new start.
2 You always have a choice. We can't always control our circumstances, but we can choose how we react to them.
You can choose not to hold your anger in until you explode, and you can choose a safe outlet to express that anger. Some of my best paintings come out of my strongest emotions. I just take a paint brush, let my emotions flow, and attack the canvas. Try different things until you find your outlet
If you don't want to be a person that yanks on her horse's mouth then you don't have to be that person.

So in lies the madness, the pursuit of the impossible in the face of the complete assurance that you will fail, and yet still you chase.

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post #63 of 65 Old 11-01-2013, 02:53 AM
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Kylie, I am late to this, but I feel that you need someone in your life that you can talk to, whenever you need that. I am the only person of my name, on FB, and I email, and text. I am a foster parent of boys your age, so I don't want to put my personal info out there for the kids parents to find. I am more than willing to be that person to help you through it, message me and I will give you my FB, cell and email.

You should message me over me messaging you, as you need to want to change, and you need to want the help. I am right here Hun, ready to help if I can.

I've had 30 kids, all like you, and I've had a lot who have gone on to do well. I've had a lot of kids who were abusive to animals, and even killed them as they were so angry. Most (not all, as I am not a magician) are now doing well.

You have a bunch of things going on, you have your family stuff, but then you have your personalty that is deliberately taking that out on your horse. You already know that's not ok. Talk to me.

You are being bullied in school - that can be fixed. Your mom isn't getting it - if you let me, when you trust me, and only if you trust me, as you would have to give me the contact info, I can talk to your mom. There's a lot that can be fixed here.

You don't have to be this way. I am willing to help you, if you will let me.
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post #64 of 65 Old 11-01-2013, 03:16 AM
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you have a rescue horse too? You need to be in control of yourself when you deal with that (and any horse) no?
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post #65 of 65 Old 11-01-2013, 08:03 AM
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Please remember Rules while answering the thread. Blunt & straight feedback is allowed when being constructive but personal comments etc. aren't.

After some moderating work, I think it's time to put this thread to sleep. Thanks for everyone who answered and gave the OP instructions for it how do deal with her situation.

Se pääsky toi kesän eteiseen, se antoi rauhan sydämeen,
ja lehahti sitten siivilleen, ja päästi pois kahleet.
Ja se loistaa, minne ikinä meen, se mukana kulkee
Kaija Koo - Ei yksi pääsky kesää tee

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